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**JonnTEN** · 10-17-2011, 03:19 PM

Sister you made many great points some which I agree and disagree with. I'm not an intellectual person nor a writer so cannot really say much. All I'm saying is sister we have to be realistic. Umar my italian friend is in his mid 20s or so. Most of the divorcess are in their 30s. Let us be realistic and state that most men would prefer their first wife to be single unless somebody knows differently?

Yes communities should do more to help widows/divorcees. This is definitely correct. You have mentioned an important point of this having to be done through mahrams as I used to know some guys who would help households of muslim prisoners and trust me I was not pleased with their conduct. I also believe that instead of sending thousands and millions abroad in charity we need to help our local people first as mentioned in the madhab of imam shafi rh.

I find that practically looking for a husband for the divorcees will mostly be related to 2 types of people; fellow divorcees (the problem is many men prefer marrying a girl from back home after getting divorced) or they enter into polygamous marriages. I think we have to be realistic and state that women who are divorced are unlikely to find a single guy in his early 20s unless they want to marry a guy from back home but then this brings up many other social issues like the guy uses her for a passport etc as is the case with many guys.

10-17-2011, 03:19 PM	#15
JonnTEN Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 472 Senior Member	Sister you made many great points some which I agree and disagree with. I'm not an intellectual person nor a writer so cannot really say much. All I'm saying is sister we have to be realistic. Umar my italian friend is in his mid 20s or so. Most of the divorcess are in their 30s. Let us be realistic and state that most men would prefer their first wife to be single unless somebody knows differently? Yes communities should do more to help widows/divorcees. This is definitely correct. You have mentioned an important point of this having to be done through mahrams as I used to know some guys who would help households of muslim prisoners and trust me I was not pleased with their conduct. I also believe that instead of sending thousands and millions abroad in charity we need to help our local people first as mentioned in the madhab of imam shafi rh. I find that practically looking for a husband for the divorcees will mostly be related to 2 types of people; fellow divorcees (the problem is many men prefer marrying a girl from back home after getting divorced) or they enter into polygamous marriages. I think we have to be realistic and state that women who are divorced are unlikely to find a single guy in his early 20s unless they want to marry a guy from back home but then this brings up many other social issues like the guy uses her for a passport etc as is the case with many guys.
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