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**Poothevokprot** · 10-17-2011, 04:36 PM

I am also jaahila. May Allah increase my knowledge and wisdom, yours and all of our SF members.

You have asked a million dollar question. The answer cannot come from the limited capacity of my brain, but one thing we can do is support the widows and divorcees financially. Do your neighbourly duty if there is such a sister in your street, in your neighbourhood, or your town, then help her out financially or otherwise. Drop her kids off to school and madrasah along with your own and offer to pick them up. Do it through your mahrams. Shaytan is running through everyone's veins.

Offer to pay her gas, electricity bill. Why is that such a strange concept? You will be giving charity to a widow and an orphan, something that
is extremely encouraged in the Quran. If you can't afford it, then how are you going to afford her gas, electricity, petrol, food, council tax, clothes and phone bills too by taking her as a second wife?

Baby sit their kids when they are not well. Babysit their kids if they are going out to work in a halal environment to earn a crust and be financially independent.

Sisters can make friends with such women. Talk to them, make friends with them and offer then companionship. I've made friends with quite a few divorcees. I give them more of my time than the married sisters as they need more advice and friendship than the married sisters. Arrange classes, circles and support groups for them. Offer practical solutions alongside advice.

We need a society that takes care of such women and doesn't leave them to the State. A Muslim is giving and his spirit of charity is such that he doesn't ask for anything in return.

All the while you are helping these women practically, look for husbands for them. There are many brothers who also can't find wives and have been looking for a long time. What about them? Why is it so alien to encourage the sisters to marry these men as first wives instead of asking the poor sisters to make desperate concessions in return for a little occasional TLC as a second, third or fourth wife?

Please don't tell me there not many men like this. Just look around this forum and you'll see many. Practising brothers like hope1 and umar italy , who I both assume are unmarried- go find them a wife and she'll thank you for the rest of her life.

We need a halal, modest marriage agency to solve this problem. Where are the brothers that were planning one?

and this is why, women need to be encouraged to take a active part in our communities and not told to just stay inside the house................

its just very sad that divorced women are tarred with a brush men are generally not.

10-17-2011, 04:36 PM	#39
Poothevokprot Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 601 Senior Member	I am also jaahila. May Allah increase my knowledge and wisdom, yours and all of our SF members. You have asked a million dollar question. The answer cannot come from the limited capacity of my brain, but one thing we can do is support the widows and divorcees financially. Do your neighbourly duty if there is such a sister in your street, in your neighbourhood, or your town, then help her out financially or otherwise. Drop her kids off to school and madrasah along with your own and offer to pick them up. Do it through your mahrams. Shaytan is running through everyone's veins. Offer to pay her gas, electricity bill. Why is that such a strange concept? You will be giving charity to a widow and an orphan, something that is extremely encouraged in the Quran. If you can't afford it, then how are you going to afford her gas, electricity, petrol, food, council tax, clothes and phone bills too by taking her as a second wife? Baby sit their kids when they are not well. Babysit their kids if they are going out to work in a halal environment to earn a crust and be financially independent. Sisters can make friends with such women. Talk to them, make friends with them and offer then companionship. I've made friends with quite a few divorcees. I give them more of my time than the married sisters as they need more advice and friendship than the married sisters. Arrange classes, circles and support groups for them. Offer practical solutions alongside advice. We need a society that takes care of such women and doesn't leave them to the State. A Muslim is giving and his spirit of charity is such that he doesn't ask for anything in return. All the while you are helping these women practically, look for husbands for them. There are many brothers who also can't find wives and have been looking for a long time. What about them? Why is it so alien to encourage the sisters to marry these men as first wives instead of asking the poor sisters to make desperate concessions in return for a little occasional TLC as a second, third or fourth wife? Please don't tell me there not many men like this. Just look around this forum and you'll see many. Practising brothers like hope1 and umar italy , who I both assume are unmarried- go find them a wife and she'll thank you for the rest of her life. We need a halal, modest marriage agency to solve this problem. Where are the brothers that were planning one? and this is why, women need to be encouraged to take a active part in our communities and not told to just stay inside the house................ its just very sad that divorced women are tarred with a brush men are generally not.
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