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**Falik** · 10-06-2011, 09:26 AM

Assalamu Alaykum,

Would the impermissibility of mixed weddings be extended to most western countries too, where there is chance of seeing males/females everywhere you go - the shops, the bus station, the libraries, the post office etc?

I mean, is it consistent to single out mixed weddings?

Yes, because you can choose how to organize your own wedding party (i.e. if doing it according to Shari'ah or not), while you can't choose (unless you're the Amir or in position of power) how people behave in the street when you're going to mosque/study/visit a friend, etc.

So, it's not about singling out only mixed weddings, but each and every occasion organized by Muslims, or regarding which you have a choice whether attending or not..

If an "Islamic association" organize a "lecture" or a "meeting" with free-mixing, we'll boycott that also.

I don't see the logic behind it being forbidden to attend mixed weddings, hopefully someone can clarify - what I mean is, if others are intermingling that's their problem, we can choose to stick to our own crowd/family, just like we'd do in other mentioned settings where everyone is interminling, right?

No, you'll rather boycott them for having chosen to organize their marriage party (i.e. a very important occasion which theorically one would be organising in order to save oneself from haram) in a haram way and against the Shari'ah.

People should know priorities.
Probably half of the Ummah does not pray five times a day....

I'm sure most of the brothers writing here will spend more of their time inviting people to Salah rather than other "secondary things", but still, having priorities doesn't absolve us from discussing any other issue which may pop up.

Otherwise, if even we manage to have every single Muslim praying at some time in the future, we'll have forgot every remaining part of the Shari'ah (as it wouldn't have been taught/discussed anymore, all efforts having been placed in the "priorities")..

True. However, ‘priority’ is an often misused word to avoid practising on the rulings that one does not incline towards.

I’m sure the Sahabah (radhiallahu anhum) who were almost fanatically meticulous and fussy over every particular Nawafil and Sunnah also had much bigger priorities - such as conquering half the world in less than 30 years. Or do you think perhaps the two were related i.e. Their meticulousness over the minute particulars drew the barakah from Allah that opened the world up for them in a manner that bears no materialistic explanations, and that is unprecedented in the recorded history of mankind?

Beautifully put,

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10-06-2011, 09:26 AM	#31
Falik Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 518 Senior Member	Assalamu Alaykum, Would the impermissibility of mixed weddings be extended to most western countries too, where there is chance of seeing males/females everywhere you go - the shops, the bus station, the libraries, the post office etc? I mean, is it consistent to single out mixed weddings? Yes, because you can choose how to organize your own wedding party (i.e. if doing it according to Shari'ah or not), while you can't choose (unless you're the Amir or in position of power) how people behave in the street when you're going to mosque/study/visit a friend, etc. So, it's not about singling out only mixed weddings, but each and every occasion organized by Muslims, or regarding which you have a choice whether attending or not.. If an "Islamic association" organize a "lecture" or a "meeting" with free-mixing, we'll boycott that also. I don't see the logic behind it being forbidden to attend mixed weddings, hopefully someone can clarify - what I mean is, if others are intermingling that's their problem, we can choose to stick to our own crowd/family, just like we'd do in other mentioned settings where everyone is interminling, right? No, you'll rather boycott them for having chosen to organize their marriage party (i.e. a very important occasion which theorically one would be organising in order to save oneself from haram) in a haram way and against the Shari'ah. People should know priorities. Probably half of the Ummah does not pray five times a day.... I'm sure most of the brothers writing here will spend more of their time inviting people to Salah rather than other "secondary things", but still, having priorities doesn't absolve us from discussing any other issue which may pop up. Otherwise, if even we manage to have every single Muslim praying at some time in the future, we'll have forgot every remaining part of the Shari'ah (as it wouldn't have been taught/discussed anymore, all efforts having been placed in the "priorities").. True. However, ‘priority’ is an often misused word to avoid practising on the rulings that one does not incline towards. I’m sure the Sahabah (radhiallahu anhum) who were almost fanatically meticulous and fussy over every particular Nawafil and Sunnah also had much bigger priorities - such as conquering half the world in less than 30 years. Or do you think perhaps the two were related i.e. Their meticulousness over the minute particulars drew the barakah from Allah that opened the world up for them in a manner that bears no materialistic explanations, and that is unprecedented in the recorded history of mankind? Beautifully put, !
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