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**vNGiDaFX** · 10-02-2011, 06:40 AM

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for all the replies brothers and sisters!

My apologizes for not being able to reply individually... however please know that all your replies were very thorough & thought-providing, and I read them all more than once to fully understand all the beautiful advice which was given.

Just wanted to update you all on the situation.

, by the grace of Allah

and your duas, the situation is 100% better now. I was really at a loss with this particular situation in the beginning, and didn't see how it could get better. However, I kept my faith in Allah swt, made (extra) dua to him to fix my relationship with my brother with His grace, asked you brothers and sisters for advice... and the one and only Allah swt listened.

Just a day or two after the incident, we started talking a little bit, just work/business related stuff which we had no choice but to talk about... but somehow over the next day or so we became completely normal and it was like all the fighting/arguing didn't even happen before. Now we are completely fine, working together on the business and trying to get it off the ground, making salat together often, and I've also tried to "loosen up" a little bit without compromising my imaan. So I spend some time in the evening with the family outside of my room, even if the TV is on and whatever... I don't care. I don't pay attention to what's on TV if I feel that it's something which I shouldn't watch, and that's that. Nonetheless, I spend some time with the family in this way and we usually end up talking and the TV volume ends up going down anyway... so I may be seeming a bit more "normal" to my family now and not so "consumed" with deen 24/7...

. I'm also trying to compromise on some of things we argued about, such as the pants so high, beard, etc... so when I'm with my bro, I try to keep my pants right at my ankles instead of having them a safe distance higher like I personally prefer. When I'm alone, I'll have them as high as I want...lol. I also try to keep my beard clean & trim it slightly every so often while trying my best not to effect the length & 'clean' it up at the same time. Insha'Allah when it gets past the 'messy' stage and becomes much more thicker and longer, it will be better maintained.

Subhan'Allah.

Originally, it really seemed like it's going to take a lot of work to fix this situation, and even then it may not be 100% fixable. I really don't even know how my bro and I just started talking to each other in a normal manner again, joking around, and everything we normally do. It just kind of 'happened' by itself..

Undoubtedly, it was none other than Allah swt who fixed this situation.

.!

Once again,

for all your advice and duas.

10-02-2011, 06:40 AM	#9
vNGiDaFX Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 512 Senior Member	, for all the replies brothers and sisters! My apologizes for not being able to reply individually... however please know that all your replies were very thorough & thought-providing, and I read them all more than once to fully understand all the beautiful advice which was given. Just wanted to update you all on the situation. , by the grace of Allah and your duas, the situation is 100% better now. I was really at a loss with this particular situation in the beginning, and didn't see how it could get better. However, I kept my faith in Allah swt, made (extra) dua to him to fix my relationship with my brother with His grace, asked you brothers and sisters for advice... and the one and only Allah swt listened. Just a day or two after the incident, we started talking a little bit, just work/business related stuff which we had no choice but to talk about... but somehow over the next day or so we became completely normal and it was like all the fighting/arguing didn't even happen before. Now we are completely fine, working together on the business and trying to get it off the ground, making salat together often, and I've also tried to "loosen up" a little bit without compromising my imaan. So I spend some time in the evening with the family outside of my room, even if the TV is on and whatever... I don't care. I don't pay attention to what's on TV if I feel that it's something which I shouldn't watch, and that's that. Nonetheless, I spend some time with the family in this way and we usually end up talking and the TV volume ends up going down anyway... so I may be seeming a bit more "normal" to my family now and not so "consumed" with deen 24/7... . I'm also trying to compromise on some of things we argued about, such as the pants so high, beard, etc... so when I'm with my bro, I try to keep my pants right at my ankles instead of having them a safe distance higher like I personally prefer. When I'm alone, I'll have them as high as I want...lol. I also try to keep my beard clean & trim it slightly every so often while trying my best not to effect the length & 'clean' it up at the same time. Insha'Allah when it gets past the 'messy' stage and becomes much more thicker and longer, it will be better maintained. Subhan'Allah. Originally, it really seemed like it's going to take a lot of work to fix this situation, and even then it may not be 100% fixable. I really don't even know how my bro and I just started talking to each other in a normal manner again, joking around, and everything we normally do. It just kind of 'happened' by itself.. Undoubtedly, it was none other than Allah swt who fixed this situation. .! Once again, for all your advice and duas.
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