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**Amorsesombabs** · 09-21-2011, 07:52 PM

Assalamu Alaikum,

When you have guests over, how should you treat them? I guess it depends on who it is first - family, friends, colleagues etc. And also what time they come, and what background they are so what food preferences they have. It depends on all your mentioned. If it's family like brother or sister then ofcourse you won't tell them to sit in the drawing room.

General Rules:

If they come at lunch/dinner time, then you don't ask for dinner. You just serve it.
If they come at tea time, then you serve tea.

Best is to ask them without any takalluf what they want. If they don't tell you then you bring what you think is best.

So, what should one serve? Chai and biskut? or more? You won't serve chai at dinner time will you?

And if they need the washroom, should you tell them where it is or lead them there? Ofcourse you get up and take show them the way.

If they have kids, should you send their kids with yours to another room to play or keep them in the same room - like the living room? Tell your kids to do wahtever they want to do with them. You don't need to tell their kids what to do.

If it's close to lunch and dinner, and you haven't cooked, and you offer them to stay and they accept, then how do you leave them to cook, without embarrassing them. And there's no one at home to keep them company, and you can't order food from outside. Do you take them to the kitchen with you? You tell them im going to cook food, if you want to come you can come. If you like to read a book ill bring you one. If you like to use the internet i'll bring my laptop. You tell them I'm cooking food for you. It's best to be without any takalluf. If I have such guests I tell them honestly and clearly. There's no food at home so I'll bring it. Or if theres some leftover Ill just serve it.

If they need to pray, should you bring a jaynamaz and set it in the same room, or in one of the bedrooms? Wherever you and they are comfortable.

Oh, lots more questions. These are some general etiquettes but I don't know what is best.
Theres a book by Hazrat Thanvi (DB) called Adaad e Muashrat. Please read it.

09-21-2011, 07:52 PM	#2
Amorsesombabs Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 599 Senior Member	Assalamu Alaikum, When you have guests over, how should you treat them? I guess it depends on who it is first - family, friends, colleagues etc. And also what time they come, and what background they are so what food preferences they have. It depends on all your mentioned. If it's family like brother or sister then ofcourse you won't tell them to sit in the drawing room. General Rules: If they come at lunch/dinner time, then you don't ask for dinner. You just serve it. If they come at tea time, then you serve tea. Best is to ask them without any takalluf what they want. If they don't tell you then you bring what you think is best. So, what should one serve? Chai and biskut? or more? You won't serve chai at dinner time will you? And if they need the washroom, should you tell them where it is or lead them there? Ofcourse you get up and take show them the way. If they have kids, should you send their kids with yours to another room to play or keep them in the same room - like the living room? Tell your kids to do wahtever they want to do with them. You don't need to tell their kids what to do. If it's close to lunch and dinner, and you haven't cooked, and you offer them to stay and they accept, then how do you leave them to cook, without embarrassing them. And there's no one at home to keep them company, and you can't order food from outside. Do you take them to the kitchen with you? You tell them im going to cook food, if you want to come you can come. If you like to read a book ill bring you one. If you like to use the internet i'll bring my laptop. You tell them I'm cooking food for you. It's best to be without any takalluf. If I have such guests I tell them honestly and clearly. There's no food at home so I'll bring it. Or if theres some leftover Ill just serve it. If they need to pray, should you bring a jaynamaz and set it in the same room, or in one of the bedrooms? Wherever you and they are comfortable. Oh, lots more questions. These are some general etiquettes but I don't know what is best. Theres a book by Hazrat Thanvi (DB) called Adaad e Muashrat. Please read it.
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