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**23tommy** · 09-07-2011, 11:14 PM

I think some of the brothers/sisters are trying to say is that at least in your heart you should accept a mate that is not part of your tribe/culture. If your parents do not approve then that is their business, but as far as you are concerned it should remain a possibility. If your heart is closed to outsiders than their is no chance for getting married to outside the tribe, if your heart is open maybe Allah (swt) will bless you with a pious husband not from your culture. The main objective is to get married to a good man, not a good somali man.

I'm sorry but this is easier said than done. You can't just abandon your family just because you want to marry someone from a different race. Family was there for you all your life. You can't also erase the stigma in our society. I wish we could but we can't. It's time for reality to hit home.

09-07-2011, 11:14 PM	#25
23tommy Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 393 Senior Member	I think some of the brothers/sisters are trying to say is that at least in your heart you should accept a mate that is not part of your tribe/culture. If your parents do not approve then that is their business, but as far as you are concerned it should remain a possibility. If your heart is closed to outsiders than their is no chance for getting married to outside the tribe, if your heart is open maybe Allah (swt) will bless you with a pious husband not from your culture. The main objective is to get married to a good man, not a good somali man. I'm sorry but this is easier said than done. You can't just abandon your family just because you want to marry someone from a different race. Family was there for you all your life. You can't also erase the stigma in our society. I wish we could but we can't. It's time for reality to hit home.
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