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**Drugmachine** · 09-08-2011, 12:06 AM

Ehmmm was the family (mehrem) present when you performed the Nikah & seemed they to be happy? Be honest...

I'm not saying you can't get married but you will lose your family in the process. Is it worth? Open for debate...

These are four separate issues here.

Issue 1: Is this an issue in the Muslim Ummah? Yes
Issue 2: Does "Islam" give Muslimah a right to marry a Muslim of her choice? Yes
Issue 3: Is this the Muslimah doing anything Islamically or ethically wrong by choosing a Muslim of her choice, outside of her culture? No
Issue 4: Should we side with and agree with the family when they are clearly in the wrong? No

At one hand you say that you cannot get married on the other hand you deprive yourself of potential Muslims who will be willing to support you and look after you. Wheres the logic in that?

My experience of last 2 days alone (let alone 15+ years) disagree with your pessimism. Yes this is an issue and yes families create issues but SO WHAT? Are you honestly telling me that a Muslimah should back down from marrying a good Muslim simply because she fears that her family and community will give her a hard time?

My Sister in Islam, its hard I know but Allah (SWT)'s helps those who want to follow the Sunnah of Nikah.

P.S: Plenty of women I know are married outside of their culture and some their families have welcomed back and some havn't. So what?

09-08-2011, 12:06 AM	#35
Drugmachine Join Date Apr 2006 Posts 4,490 Senior Member	Ehmmm was the family (mehrem) present when you performed the Nikah & seemed they to be happy? Be honest... I'm not saying you can't get married but you will lose your family in the process. Is it worth? Open for debate... These are four separate issues here. Issue 1: Is this an issue in the Muslim Ummah? Yes Issue 2: Does "Islam" give Muslimah a right to marry a Muslim of her choice? Yes Issue 3: Is this the Muslimah doing anything Islamically or ethically wrong by choosing a Muslim of her choice, outside of her culture? No Issue 4: Should we side with and agree with the family when they are clearly in the wrong? No At one hand you say that you cannot get married on the other hand you deprive yourself of potential Muslims who will be willing to support you and look after you. Wheres the logic in that? My experience of last 2 days alone (let alone 15+ years) disagree with your pessimism. Yes this is an issue and yes families create issues but SO WHAT? Are you honestly telling me that a Muslimah should back down from marrying a good Muslim simply because she fears that her family and community will give her a hard time? My Sister in Islam, its hard I know but Allah (SWT)'s helps those who want to follow the Sunnah of Nikah. P.S: Plenty of women I know are married outside of their culture and some their families have welcomed back and some havn't. So what?
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