No one is judging unfairly from what I can see. It is simply that when someone says that something which is obviously a part of the Sunnah, whether it is obligatory or optional, is something inhumane, it changes from a matter of fiqh to a matter of Aqidah. And this is a serious issue, for tomorrow you may come and say that you disagree with the Maliki view that the slave-girls may be forced into intercourse against their will, and then say that this now is "barbaric". I am simply bringing this up as an example, and if it is a wrong example then there are other proper examples which may be brought from every Madhab by people who wish to call something as "unacceptable". So it is best to study what constitutes a proof in Islam, what are the different gradings and types of proofs in Islam, and then try to choose the Madhab based on this, rather than merely on preference of certain views over other ones, since every single Madhab has something or the other which is unpalatable for those who do not understand the foundations of proofs in Islam and how they come together whenever a judgment in made about any matter in Islam