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he will be there in few hours inshallah =)

Ok jazakallah khair sidi;

Another point is that today a lot of muslimas have been hurt emotionally in a variety of ways; either coming from families that raised them with non-islamic, gender biased cultural mindsets that made the sister feel hurt. Then what I notice in the west, these girls (and boys) end up in haram situations where they are taken advantage of and abused by either husbands who have the same type of cultural mindset, or by 'boyfriends' who take advantage of these sisters and use them. This leaves these poor sisters broken, which only opens up more possibilities to be abused. This fiction presented by hollywood and copied by mutant offspring such as bollywood would have these sisters (and brothers) believe that there is that special someone in this world who you will fall in love with and everything will be like romeo and juliet. Reality, when you get right down to it, being in love with someone is being able to trust them with your own vulnerabilities. Love is not in its essence sexual or romantic, but it is protection and trust. It is comfort and a feeling of security. Now, if people want to follow the absurd, fabricated notion presented by the shaiyateen of the west that one man, one woman full stop, is the way it is, if you are a woman, you have nearly condemned yourself to a life without a spouse. I find this sad and depressing, because, in the end, no one wants to grow old alone. Parents die, siblings move and have lives of their own, friends busy themselves and disappear, and you're alone, because of this sick fantasy spun by the shaiyateen that say, this is the way it must be. Allah save us from this.