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Assalamualikum brothers and sisters.
I need your help, advices and most importantly your duas. Since Ramadan started I havent shaved and dont intend to. The past few days dad and uncles were telling me to shave. I used to stand silently and didnt respond. I meanwhile took care not to be angry or show any displeasure to them. Alhumdulillah every work, every resposiblity of mine, I completed.

Tonight, just about 2 hours ago my father told me to shave and said he realizes its a sin but the sin will be on him and not on me. I have holidays these days [ I study engineering and its a mixed education university in Dubai], so I have been helping my father in business. Anyway, I told him that it is not allowed and all four schools of thought in Islam disallow it. He said do whatever you want. I went back to take care of business. After half an hour he comes to the shop and starts screaming at me. He said, "All my life I worked hard so that you people have a good life and now when I am old you all disagree with me and drag me to my grave. Why are you doing engineering? You wont EVER get a job with your beard and I can write this on stone and give you. Mark My Words. If you get a job I am not the son of my father. Look at your sister. She rejected the proposal of a guy because he has beard. You think any educated girl will marry you? [Since I already paid the fees for next year of my education, he further said] Go to your university and get the money back. Go to your home country [Bangladesh] and attend any madrasahs.

[He further said] Look at the current political climate, people in Egypt have to shave. And an Islamic universitys Vice Chancellor who had more than a fist long beard is now clean shaven. [I dont know how true this is, but that is what dad said.] People in all high positions are clean shaven because that is the necessity these days. You think you can change government laws. Yes Allah has said to follow Islam, but Allah also said to survive. If you were doing MBBS it would be different because doctors can open a clinic and mind their own business but you are studying engineering [aviation] and you will never get a job. Go and get back the money you paid for the next academic year and then go away to your country. I wont bother coming back to our home country if niether you, nor your sister listens to me."

"Your uncles dont have beard, your cousins dont, no one in your age group does -- what would they think of you? If you wanted to keep a beard why did you get into engineering and spent so much money of mine?" A lot other things were told, after which he went home while I sat quietly the whole time. Then uncle told, "Dont take what your dad told to heart. Tomorrow shave your beard, continue your studies. Get well settled then do whatever you want."

I didnt reply. I came home, massaged dads legs like I do most nights and sat down to type this. [I am not trying to potray myself as modest, self righteous and religious. Because I am none of it. I have always been in mixed schools and am amongst those of the lowest dirtiest characters. So please dont think of me as pious. Also, dad has a beard. Dad is mashAllah religious and has come from an extremely poor family. Though I have written what he said, I do not want anyone to think of my dad as the bad person here. Please remember him in your duas too since he is becoming weak physically.]