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So the object of Peeri-Mureedi is to get rid of our blameworthy habits (like kibr, riya, anger)(akhlaq-e-razeela) and to inculcate praiseworthy habits (like sabr, shukr, tawakkul) (akhlaq-e-hameedah). When you want that from a Shaikh, whether you are bayt or not it does not matter, you first find a Shaikh and then start communicating with him about your blameworthy habits. He starts giving you instructions and you start following those instructions. The speed of your progress in the guidance of an expert (kamil) Shaikh is really astronomical (very high) while if you want to give up your sins and bad habits on your own then the speed is nearly nil. You have to find your Shaikh yourself and that is the most important step. You should have a congeniality, consonance (muasibat) with your Shaikh. As per Shariah instruction you have to communicate with him in the presence of a mehram and if you write a letter it has to be read by a mehram first and same about the reply you get. This all may sound heavy to talk but Insha Allah it will be all routine. This Pir-Murid relation is one of the most wonderful things in life. Write back for any clarification.
Wassalam