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Salam aleikum wr wb. I am a revert that got married in 2008 hamdulillah to arbic guy. In the beginning our marriage was good. We was doing things together, enjoyed spending time together etc. the lasy 2 years we run into a lot of problems. First of all i would like to say we live with his parents. Have done it 2,5 year. Waiting for appartement. couse of that we run in a lot of problems in our relationship as his parents allmoust always take his side. I was by imam couple of times to get advice about our marriage, and the imam gave me right. First time i took my husband with me but since than he dont want to go. Our problem is that i dont trust him ... he have been lying to me about a lot of things. Even about buying a car or where he is ... . I have found on webhistory in our computer that there have been watched on dirty movies. He said its not him. He always critiseze me ... from being a wife/mum/muslimah ... he tell me am ugly, cant cook ... dont do anything. Onec in a while he tells me something sweet. But than i dont believe it couse i dont trust him ... i dont feel any love from his side in the marriage even he tells me he loves me ... but when he gets angry he hates me and am the worsed women on earth. He calls me bad names. Tells me to go to hell and words am a shame write here.
9 days ago he went on a bussines trip to Scandinavia ... he said it takes 3 days ,,, after being there 2 days he told me he cant come day after but he will the next day ... he didnt ... and like that it have been since. 2 days ago he promised he was going to come yesterday ... i called him he said he just need to take shower and than he and his friend drive. i didnt hear anything 4 hours ... so i sended sms where i wrote and? he wrote they are on the way ... than some hours later he sended they was 150 km from a city, than another sms that they sleep in a hotel there and drive in the morning today. So hours after he send me sms that if i dont tell to his parents he will tell me the true. well he was in another country in europe ... his bussinesfriend left him there ... lol. and he will come after 2 days. i got angry, hurt and felt like a fool. Why he lied to me? what more he is hiding? how can i trust him again? he after the talk wrote sms to me that i control him to mutch and he dont care about me and if not for kids he would left me long time ago. He wrote again that am not good and i make him lie to me. I said i need u to make me trust u .. and he said he will not do that ... he give me last chance. Is this normal within islamic rules?
Hours after he chenged to a loving husband ... but i just cant manage it anymore. How to trust this guy again. He makes decissions without me ... he lie to me ... he hide things from me ... pls help me. my eyes hurt of crying.