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**Eunatis** · 02-15-2008, 01:17 AM

Salaam,

A while ago I was reading a story…subhanallah it was a beautiful story. Not many people understand it though, but inshallah I’ll explain it.

There was this man who had been happily married with his wife for about (if I remember correctly) 54 yrs. Someone, feeling quite amazed and surprised at the length of this marriage, asked him, ‘How have you two stayed together for 54 yrs, what is your secret?’ The old man turned to his wife and said to her, ‘Ruth we are happily incompatible’. This is the end of the story.

Subhanallah this story incorporates all qualities one needs to attain success within the marriage. I have told many people this story and no one except this one revert sister got it and as soon as she figured what it meant she was like…‘oh wow, that’s so true’.

What does he mean by ‘happily incompatible’? What he meant was that when you find someone you will never find him/her to be 100% perfect, it’s impossible to find a perfect partner. Hence there will be some incompatibilities which will arise in your marriage. So success in marriage lies in how you deal with those incompatibilities and not just merely in trying to find the most compatible one. This man dealt with the incompatibilities using a constructive approach (i.e. through compromise, listening, understanding one another and etc) which led him to live in an incompatible and yet happy way.

The life of Khadija RA is truly an amazing one, which women (including myself) should try and follow. Her devotion as a wife to the Prophet SAW was truly amazing. One beautiful example: she would go to the cave Hira from her house (a two mile walk) in the depths of the night and then she would climb the cave Hira (a long climb), just to attend to the Prophet SAW and to see how he was doing. AND she was a 50yr old women!!! (I think if I remember correctly). MashAllah, can you imagine a 50 yr old lady climbing up a cave just to see how her husband is doing?!! Subhanallah! I remember reading about her a few years back and her story is truly a beautiful tear-rendering story.

May Allah give all sisters (including myself) the tawfeeq to emulate Khadija RA. Ameen.

Wasalaam

02-15-2008, 01:17 AM	#31
Eunatis Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 507 Senior Member	Salaam, A while ago I was reading a story…subhanallah it was a beautiful story. Not many people understand it though, but inshallah I’ll explain it. There was this man who had been happily married with his wife for about (if I remember correctly) 54 yrs. Someone, feeling quite amazed and surprised at the length of this marriage, asked him, ‘How have you two stayed together for 54 yrs, what is your secret?’ The old man turned to his wife and said to her, ‘Ruth we are happily incompatible’. This is the end of the story. Subhanallah this story incorporates all qualities one needs to attain success within the marriage. I have told many people this story and no one except this one revert sister got it and as soon as she figured what it meant she was like…‘oh wow, that’s so true’. What does he mean by ‘happily incompatible’? What he meant was that when you find someone you will never find him/her to be 100% perfect, it’s impossible to find a perfect partner. Hence there will be some incompatibilities which will arise in your marriage. So success in marriage lies in how you deal with those incompatibilities and not just merely in trying to find the most compatible one. This man dealt with the incompatibilities using a constructive approach (i.e. through compromise, listening, understanding one another and etc) which led him to live in an incompatible and yet happy way. The life of Khadija RA is truly an amazing one, which women (including myself) should try and follow. Her devotion as a wife to the Prophet SAW was truly amazing. One beautiful example: she would go to the cave Hira from her house (a two mile walk) in the depths of the night and then she would climb the cave Hira (a long climb), just to attend to the Prophet SAW and to see how he was doing. AND she was a 50yr old women!!! (I think if I remember correctly). MashAllah, can you imagine a 50 yr old lady climbing up a cave just to see how her husband is doing?!! Subhanallah! I remember reading about her a few years back and her story is truly a beautiful tear-rendering story. May Allah give all sisters (including myself) the tawfeeq to emulate Khadija RA. Ameen. Wasalaam
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