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Old 07-01-2010, 11:28 PM   #10
MasdMnPa

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Regarding point (6), the candidate could be given the OPTION of providing reference contacts (local imam etc.) - visible only to moderators (and the potential spouse after a certain safety barrier has been crossed). The most trustworthy and serious candidates would probably be happy to supply this optional information, while the dodgy imposters would most likely choose not to. So if a sister is contacted by a brother and she sees that he has supplied address, local imam's telephone number, etc., although not view the details (to avoid potential stalker scenarios!!) - it might help her to gauge his level of trustworthiness and sincerity.

So a person's profile could reveal a lot about the person's sincerity without revealing any personal data. For example -

Nickname: Noah / Aisha
Real Name: Supplied / Not supplied
Forum memberships: SF (date of joining), Ummah (DOJ)...
Character references: None/ supplied
Jamaat/ tariqa affiliation: TJ etc. - local jamaat contact supplied/ not supplied

Plus, a star or something to indicate the members who had passed a certain security acid test (an approved/ checked reference, for example, or a recommendation from a forum or jamaat)

This is a bit like the way some professional online communities allow potential clients to sort out the riffraff from the pros!

and whose to say the person is not in cahoots with the named reference?

this is a good initiative but one which has many pitfalls if one is not careful. Instead of rushing into this,we should all take our time and give our opinions. It is better to take our time and consult as oppose to rush into it and have disastrous consequences.

There should be a small yet concise network of sincere brothers and sisters who can confirm whether said person is genuine or not. For example,if someone wanted some sort of reference from someone for a guy in my town,I could get the basic information which would help in the process.
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