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**flueftArete** · 07-03-2011, 05:49 PM

Hello brothers, I feel so forsaken at the moment, I try to follow Islam to the best of my ability, keep my faith in allah and try to help people however I can. But my life is riddled with failure, things have happened to me out of my control and I feel so defeated. This has not happened once but many times. I would love to give the details but they would reach 50 pages.

I have very little support at home, my mother is the only person who has helped me when she can, but she herself is unwell most of the time and I do not wish to burden her with my problem. I have no father because he passed away when I was six years old. My sister and brother make my life hell although they are 11 and 7 years older (I am an adult) they seem to take a real joy in seeing me upset or in defeat.

How do you have the strength to deal with such life? I know others may suffer worse but im slowly feeling like losing the will to live my life, I'm contemplating running away because i cant take this life anymore

What happened brother? Is the problem of yours only lies in their annoying? Can you please tell us some more points so that we can give you good guidelines

Regarding the teasing, it is all a question of mind over matter. No one can annoy you accept to the degree that you allow them to annoy you. It all boils down to your attitude.

If you show that you are affected by their teasing, they will only continue. If you genuinely show indifference, it will soon stop. You just have to be very strong, and by that is not meant physically strong. You need to be mentally very very very strong. Condition your mind that although it exists, it does have to exist for me if I do not want it to exist. Teasing is just a statement. It is not a reality. It is just an expression, which is not necessarily true. Why then should you allow it to affect you, make you upset, or even bring the slightest change in your attitude.
Look around you and you will notice that some people in society have a strong independent character. Some of them may be physically small, but as far as their attitude is concerned, they are towering giants. They don’t care a damn what people think of them, what people say about them, and what society feels. They do not live for society. They have a higher purpose in life.{adding from myself: You have your old mother just think of her, she wants to see you happy in your future.}

If you too will adopt such an robust, vigorous, independent, domineering, individualistic, strong-willed, obstinate mindset, no one will be able to bring you down. Remember Allah Ta’ala is the One who created you, and you live for Him, and no one else. All the others are pieces of creation like you. They are all weak, and only Allah Ta’ala is strong. Why do you mentally regard them as big, important or in control. The problem is not them, it is only that you regard them to be something. They are nothing, so keep that in mind. Extract from here

I have also faced this situation and the result was loss of myself. The only solution to yours is just don't care what they say.

07-03-2011, 05:49 PM	#3
flueftArete Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 437 Senior Member	Hello brothers, I feel so forsaken at the moment, I try to follow Islam to the best of my ability, keep my faith in allah and try to help people however I can. But my life is riddled with failure, things have happened to me out of my control and I feel so defeated. This has not happened once but many times. I would love to give the details but they would reach 50 pages. I have very little support at home, my mother is the only person who has helped me when she can, but she herself is unwell most of the time and I do not wish to burden her with my problem. I have no father because he passed away when I was six years old. My sister and brother make my life hell although they are 11 and 7 years older (I am an adult) they seem to take a real joy in seeing me upset or in defeat. How do you have the strength to deal with such life? I know others may suffer worse but im slowly feeling like losing the will to live my life, I'm contemplating running away because i cant take this life anymore What happened brother? Is the problem of yours only lies in their annoying? Can you please tell us some more points so that we can give you good guidelines Regarding the teasing, it is all a question of mind over matter. No one can annoy you accept to the degree that you allow them to annoy you. It all boils down to your attitude. If you show that you are affected by their teasing, they will only continue. If you genuinely show indifference, it will soon stop. You just have to be very strong, and by that is not meant physically strong. You need to be mentally very very very strong. Condition your mind that although it exists, it does have to exist for me if I do not want it to exist. Teasing is just a statement. It is not a reality. It is just an expression, which is not necessarily true. Why then should you allow it to affect you, make you upset, or even bring the slightest change in your attitude. Look around you and you will notice that some people in society have a strong independent character. Some of them may be physically small, but as far as their attitude is concerned, they are towering giants. They don’t care a damn what people think of them, what people say about them, and what society feels. They do not live for society. They have a higher purpose in life.{adding from myself: You have your old mother just think of her, she wants to see you happy in your future.} If you too will adopt such an robust, vigorous, independent, domineering, individualistic, strong-willed, obstinate mindset, no one will be able to bring you down. Remember Allah Ta’ala is the One who created you, and you live for Him, and no one else. All the others are pieces of creation like you. They are all weak, and only Allah Ta’ala is strong. Why do you mentally regard them as big, important or in control. The problem is not them, it is only that you regard them to be something. They are nothing, so keep that in mind. Extract from here I have also faced this situation and the result was loss of myself. The only solution to yours is just don't care what they say.
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