[Wheegiabe]

Asalaam aleykum.


I am extremely perplexed and grieved concerning my present situation and Shaytan is also attacking me with various iman-endangering thoughts. Please can you answer my following question and put my mind at rest. I went to see her and everything was done the Islamic way. i.e. I did mashwarah (consultation) and istikharah etc...

First of all I'm not a convert and I come from generations of Muslims, Al hamdullillah I'm a practising muslim, educated , runs my own medium sized company. and alhamdullilah went Hajj last year and like everyone else I'm just trying to do what's right.

Now few weeks ago I had to send delegation to the sister's family and they were supposed to give back an answer in 2 weeks time.

I've know the sister for couple of years and I've been in touch with her and al hamdullilah she accepted the idea of us getting married according to deen.

He brothers,mother, and uncle were on borad except the father whose reasons were beyond my comprehension since he came across as a quite religious person as he reads alot of Qur'an indoors and prays.

The Girl's family is of mixed race ( African & Arab) and i happen to be black (African). Now the father has given out indication why I shouldn't marry her daughter and that is because I'm black and he continued that black people are more likely to be Kuffar's and he fears I will torture her daughter.

It's a devastating verdict from a fellow Muslim and as I write the sister is in shock and wants to proceed and see if we would be married by the Kadhi.

As far as I know, we two people marry it means we are joining families together and its her father who should have the right to marry her or not but I'm not sure if Islamic laws accepts the reasons he has mentioned as to why I shouldn't marry her daughter whom I'm prepared to love and cherish in both prosperity and adversity.

We are both confused and I fear she might do something to harm herself and I really need your input on this matter. Please reply soon and put my mind at rest, I am losing hope and Shaytan is playing with my mind and making me doubt the words of Allah and his Prophet. (na‘uzu billah) Please reply soon. Jazakallah. A distressed brother in need.