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brother,

I did read your long post completely. I can understand the troubles you went through in the name of Islam. But first of all you should stop thinking about some factors for the time being. Your father,your mother, the madrassa, the kids there who abused you, the people in the mosque who didn't back you up, 9/11, the atheist friend who questions you etc. Keep ALL of them out of the equation for the time being.

Now think what is our relationship with Allah?
Allah is our master and we are his slave.

Why are we send to this world?
To worship Allah and only Allah.

Is that a fair deal?
Well considering the fact that we have to worship him only for the limited time we live in this world and for it we will be rewarded Paradise for eternity, its more than a fair deal, its the best deal we can ever get.

But i am facing lot of problems due to religion?
If the intention of us following Islam is purely to please Allah then its consequences in this world doesn't matter.

Even if I am following Islam perfectly why am i facing more problems in Life?
It is Allah's way of testing us, our endurance and our intentions. Also for every trails and tribulations we face our sins are forgiven because of it.

How do i deal with the problems around me?
Sabr, patience. 'Allahuma'asaabireen' meaning Allah is with the one who is patient.

brother stick around and try to lose your bad company, And do not gain knowledge to answer other people, Gain knowledge only for the Sake of Allah.

P.s. Whatever happens around you, Don't forget your personal relationship will Allah.
Also read what all troubles our beloved Rasoolullah went through to teach Islam in his time.
This video will help http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQ4N3YWMAIk