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**adariseediups** · 06-30-2011, 03:42 AM

Alot of other hindu cultures also don't make any sense. Why hate "dowry" so much?

Lol, don't worry. I hate all idiotic hindu customs.

It's one thing if the bride's father is giving furniture, appliances, etc to his daughter for her to share with her husband, and another thing entirely if the bride's family is giving money directly to the groom. I see no problem even with the latter, it if it is given freely as a gift. But let's be honest, we all know the stories of the groom's family demanding dowry, and the bride's father having to undertake great financial burden (debt, even) to satisfy them. I wouldn't call this giving "dowry" freely and happily, when the family is under great pressure by the groom's side and society at large. And then there are the horrific cases of the bride being burned to death or otherwise harmed because the dowry was "insufficient". There's no denying that this institution is a great injustice. Again, try to make the distinction between gift and dowry. Dowry is a societal institution, and that makes it very hard for a person to avoid. So if this is the type of "dowry" we are talking about, my point stands that it makes no sense.

As for the tragic incident mentioned by the OP, then this needs to be a warning to all parents that they need to do their due diligence before marrying their children off into another family. It should not merely be that getting my kids married is a burden so let me get it overwith as soon as possible so I can be free of it. If the parents don't exercise the utmost effort, then they are to blame for every bit of pain and suffering of that young man or woman which results from a marriage to a bad family.

EDIT: Also, isn't imitating the kuffar haram?

06-30-2011, 03:42 AM	#20
adariseediups Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 414 Senior Member	Alot of other hindu cultures also don't make any sense. Why hate "dowry" so much? Lol, don't worry. I hate all idiotic hindu customs. It's one thing if the bride's father is giving furniture, appliances, etc to his daughter for her to share with her husband, and another thing entirely if the bride's family is giving money directly to the groom. I see no problem even with the latter, it if it is given freely as a gift. But let's be honest, we all know the stories of the groom's family demanding dowry, and the bride's father having to undertake great financial burden (debt, even) to satisfy them. I wouldn't call this giving "dowry" freely and happily, when the family is under great pressure by the groom's side and society at large. And then there are the horrific cases of the bride being burned to death or otherwise harmed because the dowry was "insufficient". There's no denying that this institution is a great injustice. Again, try to make the distinction between gift and dowry. Dowry is a societal institution, and that makes it very hard for a person to avoid. So if this is the type of "dowry" we are talking about, my point stands that it makes no sense. As for the tragic incident mentioned by the OP, then this needs to be a warning to all parents that they need to do their due diligence before marrying their children off into another family. It should not merely be that getting my kids married is a burden so let me get it overwith as soon as possible so I can be free of it. If the parents don't exercise the utmost effort, then they are to blame for every bit of pain and suffering of that young man or woman which results from a marriage to a bad family. EDIT: Also, isn't imitating the kuffar haram?
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