sorry to say othat our overly tight integrated family system has created so much mess into our lives. women pressurize men for no reason. In the end, its the man who has to live with his wife rather than those women in family. I never understand why those women want their brotehrs, and sons to marry a person of THEIR choice, knowing that he likes someone else or not knowing that etc etc. we are just muslims by name .. islam is far away from us and we are a trashed ummah right now