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**effenseshoora** · 06-14-2011, 04:53 AM

Wa 'alaykum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu dear sister,

May Allah guide us all and keep us firm on Sirat al-Mustaqeem, Ameen.

I have had these feelings also, and I still have them occassionally. To me, it seems your brother is having some social-psychological issues and he's blaming Islam for it, though it hasn't anything to do with it. Perhaps he's feeling insecure, or maybe he's having an addiction? (drugs, alcohol or maybe even a sex addiction).

Did he ever encounter muslims who were harsh in their approach? Islam should be something which enriches our lives, and not something which constricts us. I asked my ustaz a couple of weeks ago.. that, I have this feeling that Islam constricts my life and I can't make fun. And he basically told me that Islam tells us where the boundaries are, and within the boundaries you can do whatever you would like to do.
So.. Why did I feel that Islam constricts my life? Because I met muslims who were very harsh, who can only backbite, who can only slander the other muslims because he's not from the right sect as he is, because I saw how muslims were becoming agressive when they started to practise. So basically I met the wrong muslims. But not only that, we sometimes focus too much on the prohibitions, that we tend to forget what is Halal, what is recommended etc. For example, the Prophet (sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam) clearly encouraged to excercise. There are numerous occasions where he for example participated in wrestling, or when he had a 'run-contest' with his beloved A'isha (radiallahu anha).

Please tell us whether your brother might experience loneliness. Does he interact with a lot of people? Are his friends mostly non-muslims?

And the last question for now, does he have a intellectual mind? If so, then you should consider introducing him to Shaykh Hamza Yusuf. For example, refer him to these lectures of our beloved Shaykh Hamza Yusuf:

http://rethinkingislamicreform.co.uk/
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdLidRSVuOE (he actually starts with a joke here

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06-14-2011, 04:53 AM	#2
effenseshoora Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 504 Senior Member	Wa 'alaykum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu dear sister, May Allah guide us all and keep us firm on Sirat al-Mustaqeem, Ameen. I have had these feelings also, and I still have them occassionally. To me, it seems your brother is having some social-psychological issues and he's blaming Islam for it, though it hasn't anything to do with it. Perhaps he's feeling insecure, or maybe he's having an addiction? (drugs, alcohol or maybe even a sex addiction). Did he ever encounter muslims who were harsh in their approach? Islam should be something which enriches our lives, and not something which constricts us. I asked my ustaz a couple of weeks ago.. that, I have this feeling that Islam constricts my life and I can't make fun. And he basically told me that Islam tells us where the boundaries are, and within the boundaries you can do whatever you would like to do. So.. Why did I feel that Islam constricts my life? Because I met muslims who were very harsh, who can only backbite, who can only slander the other muslims because he's not from the right sect as he is, because I saw how muslims were becoming agressive when they started to practise. So basically I met the wrong muslims. But not only that, we sometimes focus too much on the prohibitions, that we tend to forget what is Halal, what is recommended etc. For example, the Prophet (sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam) clearly encouraged to excercise. There are numerous occasions where he for example participated in wrestling, or when he had a 'run-contest' with his beloved A'isha (radiallahu anha). Please tell us whether your brother might experience loneliness. Does he interact with a lot of people? Are his friends mostly non-muslims? And the last question for now, does he have a intellectual mind? If so, then you should consider introducing him to Shaykh Hamza Yusuf. For example, refer him to these lectures of our beloved Shaykh Hamza Yusuf: http://rethinkingislamicreform.co.uk/ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdLidRSVuOE (he actually starts with a joke here )
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