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**praboobolbode** · 06-05-2011, 10:29 AM

As-salamu alaikum

PouringRain said that having no attraction is not a valid reason not to marry a person. I disagree. I only agree partly depending on the case. There are different levels of attraction. For example, you might be sufficiently attracted to a person but you don't acknowledge it. If there is sufficient attraction, marriage can work. People nowadays don't even know what sufficient attraction is because Hollywood and images we are bombarded with. That has clouded our senses a bit.

But generally speaking, if you are not attracted to a person, it's going to be an uphill battle. If this brother is feeling already like this, ask him how will he feel when is married. Tell him to do himself and HER a favour and just be upfront. If that is not possible, tell him to have somebody else say it to the girl's guardian. For all we know, this sister is not even going to get her feelings hurt, at least not that bad. A marriage you don't want to be in that could potentially end up as a disaster vs. temporarily hurting a girl's feelings?

06-05-2011, 10:29 AM	#3
praboobolbode Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 437 Senior Member	As-salamu alaikum PouringRain said that having no attraction is not a valid reason not to marry a person. I disagree. I only agree partly depending on the case. There are different levels of attraction. For example, you might be sufficiently attracted to a person but you don't acknowledge it. If there is sufficient attraction, marriage can work. People nowadays don't even know what sufficient attraction is because Hollywood and images we are bombarded with. That has clouded our senses a bit. But generally speaking, if you are not attracted to a person, it's going to be an uphill battle. If this brother is feeling already like this, ask him how will he feel when is married. Tell him to do himself and HER a favour and just be upfront. If that is not possible, tell him to have somebody else say it to the girl's guardian. For all we know, this sister is not even going to get her feelings hurt, at least not that bad. A marriage you don't want to be in that could potentially end up as a disaster vs. temporarily hurting a girl's feelings?
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