[Tamawaipsemek]

Hi,

i am young Muslim , the reason i am posting my problem here is people with age and experience might give me a better solution .

i am only 25* when i got married* got forced in to arrange marriage which was never my cup of tea
but anyhow i was forced to see this girl .. right on the spot .. while i was at my wifes house
the it was decided in 20 minutes that the engagement is going to take place soon
when i went back home i told my mom that hey its too soon etc... and i am not ready in whatever way
financially mentally etc etc they told me they will help me out etc.

To cut the story short i was emotionally black mailed in to this my mom didnt eat or talked to me 3 days
i had to say a yes..

Honestly i didnt see the girl ..i caught a glimpse of her
neither i was attracted to her..

but anyhow in 2 weeks engagement day was there≥.

Which transformed in to a NIKKAH !

no one told me about it .. my mother thought it was a good move .. and on the day i was getting engaged it turned in to a nikkah ..
i was really upset..

after .. that 6 months i called this girl and we dated..

i was not really happy .. not really interested .. or i dont know

we didnt really connect.

after 6 months i move abroad and a year or so passes by i come back and get married*i been talking to her on the phone*

spent hardly 2 months.. didnt had "SEX" because she was to uncomfortable or she wasnt ready
or i dont know what i didnt forced it.

Plus everything seemed so fake so unreal

anyhow i move back after 5 months i come back

now i am living with this girl
and its not really working out
we dont have a good sex life
i dont really enjoy it
we dont mentally connect
we fight all the time

i know shes trying
i know i am trying
its just not working out


shes a very very very nice person
i love her for trying

and i am not really attracted to her

but its not working out


i dont have any complains or what so ever

except we dont really connect


I am a muslim , i dont want to make a stupid mistake

we dont really connect

shes so nice.. she doesnot deserves a guy like me

she deserves some one who can make her .. feel loved
give his best Genuinely

unlike me .. i try but its FAKE

i dont know what to do

i dont want to be a bad guy

i dont want to play with her life
her emotions

i think i made a big mistake
i know i should i have stopped it in the beginning
but i thought i will fall in love she will grow on me
i dont want to be a bad-ie i dont want to do something stupid ..



Any suggestions brothers and sisters