[Lymneterfeiff]

Asalamwlikum:

Let me start with, Allah knows best. And this current situation in which you have been put in should be not taken as a negative but test of your love of Allah SWT:

First and foremost, I would like to point out that regardless if a man is married with an arranged marriage or finding a lady himself, that the married couple regardless will run into situations of hate towards each-other and hardship. No marriage is a marriage without disagreements and at times "unable to stand him / her."

I can go into detail about why / what / etc you should do as a muslim brother, however I will tell you the most important factors you need to implement.

A woman is like a beautiful flower, this flower needs to be prepared / pampered before it fully blossoms into something we love

Treat this muslim lady whom you are now married to in the same way. Remember you are starting from the ground up

- Surprise her with a gift now and then (a bouquet of flowers), some chocolates, a love note (don't be shy my brother, this is your wife)

- Instead of thinking of the negatives of her, think of the positive aspects of her (let her know this) a simply massage with some positive comments in her ears will make her soften up to you

- Take her out shopping / restaurant / get-away, find out who this woman is

- Finally, be a strong man. Most women want a man who has a strong character both physical and emotional. Let her know that your strength is to support her as your partner

Most muslim men ask the same questions over and over again "why does she not show me love" "I am not attracted to her" and finally the most common "should I divorce her." Without realizing that as a man you have failed in most departments. Do not be quick to blame your wife, when you have not stepped up and earned her trust.

Brother as hard as the situation is right now, try to implement what I have told you ASAP. Do it daily for a few weeks and see if both physically and emotionally the relationship improves.

I am sure you can both fall in love with a little work from your part, and do so the HALAL way.

Aslamwalikum brother and may ALLAH SWT make it easy for you