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**UKkoXJvF** · 05-03-2011, 04:20 PM

Shaykh Fusoos, I did not expect this generalisation from someone of your standing. How many American aalimahs have you met for you to be able to give this verdict?

I have met one too many and I am sorry I have to be the one who unveils this weakness in our system, but there is no doubt that tarbiyat is greatly lacking behind the pardah here. I have mentioned it to some of the asatidha and have invited them to take a trip to the local high schools/colleges and ask about the alimah girls to get an idea of what their attitude and behavior are like. This is the first generation though, 2nd-3rd-4th generation have hope to be real alimah. But one of their fathers had explained it to me in a good way he said, "You are expecting too much from these girls, they live in mansions, their fathers have 6 acres of land as a backyard, what do you expect from them?" I understand what he is saying.

If you are mufti or alim or very wealthy then go ahead and marry alimah here.

If you are non alim and not wealthy - dont even think about it.

05-03-2011, 04:20 PM	#10
UKkoXJvF Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 453 Senior Member	Shaykh Fusoos, I did not expect this generalisation from someone of your standing. How many American aalimahs have you met for you to be able to give this verdict? I have met one too many and I am sorry I have to be the one who unveils this weakness in our system, but there is no doubt that tarbiyat is greatly lacking behind the pardah here. I have mentioned it to some of the asatidha and have invited them to take a trip to the local high schools/colleges and ask about the alimah girls to get an idea of what their attitude and behavior are like. This is the first generation though, 2nd-3rd-4th generation have hope to be real alimah. But one of their fathers had explained it to me in a good way he said, "You are expecting too much from these girls, they live in mansions, their fathers have 6 acres of land as a backyard, what do you expect from them?" I understand what he is saying. If you are mufti or alim or very wealthy then go ahead and marry alimah here. If you are non alim and not wealthy - dont even think about it.
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