this concept and understanding is whats wrong. the alimah is still a woman and is still human. just because she is a alimah does not mean she sits,or wants to sit down with her husband and talk about academic issues. A non alim can and does do tarbiyah of his 'alimah' wife so long as he is practising himself and himslef has a correct understanding of deen. our community(indo/pak) need to get out of this awe mentality of words. again, its the tarbiyah of the alimah which she has been raised with which will depend on how the husband does the tarbiyah. but again, i rieterate, the tarbiyah of a alimah can and is done by a non alim husband. first step is to not be in awe of your wife who is a alimah. second is not to ask her about masa'il.