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**TeksPaisimi** · 04-30-2011, 09:13 AM

Do you think maybe some kind of outside influence is changing the way you think? Something happen? did someone say some thing to you to scare you? Sometimes our own minds can be our worst enemies, be strong, remember it's God you have to please first, then you, then maybe some others.

God be with you!

Its something that has been going on for the last 5 years that has changed the way i think about purdah. Please excuse me for not wanting to go into detail as that won't really do me any good.

What i will say is that after what has happened i really believe that apart from a few, men will generally treat women who do purdah as doormats and will not appreciate them. Women like me are viewed as boring, are taken advantage of and taken for granted. From my experience the same man will treat a women who is loose and lewd with more respect, kindness and love than a clean loyal women who has done purdah all her life.

As stupid as it sounds and i feel foolish for typing this but this is really what i believe, in the eyes of a man a women who does not do purdah, plays hard to get, and makes a show of her beauty is more valuable and worth making happy than a women who does purdah, stays loyal and keeps her beauty for her husband alone. Once a husband has his wife's heart and he is satisfied she will stay indoors and in purdah, be loyal to him etc, she becomes boring and the "shine" kind of fades, he will soon move onto another and treat her as something worthless.

04-30-2011, 09:13 AM	#10
TeksPaisimi Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 433 Senior Member	Do you think maybe some kind of outside influence is changing the way you think? Something happen? did someone say some thing to you to scare you? Sometimes our own minds can be our worst enemies, be strong, remember it's God you have to please first, then you, then maybe some others. God be with you! Its something that has been going on for the last 5 years that has changed the way i think about purdah. Please excuse me for not wanting to go into detail as that won't really do me any good. What i will say is that after what has happened i really believe that apart from a few, men will generally treat women who do purdah as doormats and will not appreciate them. Women like me are viewed as boring, are taken advantage of and taken for granted. From my experience the same man will treat a women who is loose and lewd with more respect, kindness and love than a clean loyal women who has done purdah all her life. As stupid as it sounds and i feel foolish for typing this but this is really what i believe, in the eyes of a man a women who does not do purdah, plays hard to get, and makes a show of her beauty is more valuable and worth making happy than a women who does purdah, stays loyal and keeps her beauty for her husband alone. Once a husband has his wife's heart and he is satisfied she will stay indoors and in purdah, be loyal to him etc, she becomes boring and the "shine" kind of fades, he will soon move onto another and treat her as something worthless.
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