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**eduptultyt** · 03-31-2011, 04:48 AM

walaykum asalaam

jazakAllah khayr for this thread, i also have a few questions to add to the list, i hope you don't mind

1. How often should you update your shaykh? i also fear im being a pest

2. Do you need to mention your past to the shaykh like events which have changed your life?

3. If for example you miss your target ibadah (tilawat, tasbih etc not prayers) for one day can you make it up the next day, and if you miss it and make it up do you need to inform him of that?

Again I am answering these questions based on my preferences and different Mashaikh might prefer otherwise.

1. My personal preferences is to leave this up to the Murid to update as much as they want. For me, in most cases updating should not be less than once a week though. If a person does update frequently though they should not always expect a written response to their updates. The point is to update and leave the rest up to the Shaykh. As long as the Shaykh is informed, he can deal with things in different manners based on what he deems most fit for the situation. The best course of action would be to ask your Shaykh of his preferences regarding this.

2. Again, this is not a must in itself but this will do two things, it will give the Shaykh more insight into how you work and also the bond between you two will grow. My preference is that the more you inform the better, but in the end it is up to the Murid how much they want to inform. An example is a friend, you don't tell each friend everything about your life and neither is it required that you tell everyone everything. But, those that you do tell, you will see that you usually have a closer relationship with them.

3. I would say that if your normally are punctual and you miss it once, yes make it up the next day. But, if you miss it often then to stipulate on yourself that you have to make it up will further hamper your progress in being punctual as it will make a person more lazy. Also, informing one's Shaykh about this would be good. Again, these are my preferences and some Mashaikh will say that you should not make the m'amulaat up and others will say that you should make them up in all circumstances.

03-31-2011, 04:48 AM	#8
eduptultyt Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 548 Senior Member	walaykum asalaam jazakAllah khayr for this thread, i also have a few questions to add to the list, i hope you don't mind 1. How often should you update your shaykh? i also fear im being a pest 2. Do you need to mention your past to the shaykh like events which have changed your life? 3. If for example you miss your target ibadah (tilawat, tasbih etc not prayers) for one day can you make it up the next day, and if you miss it and make it up do you need to inform him of that? Again I am answering these questions based on my preferences and different Mashaikh might prefer otherwise. 1. My personal preferences is to leave this up to the Murid to update as much as they want. For me, in most cases updating should not be less than once a week though. If a person does update frequently though they should not always expect a written response to their updates. The point is to update and leave the rest up to the Shaykh. As long as the Shaykh is informed, he can deal with things in different manners based on what he deems most fit for the situation. The best course of action would be to ask your Shaykh of his preferences regarding this. 2. Again, this is not a must in itself but this will do two things, it will give the Shaykh more insight into how you work and also the bond between you two will grow. My preference is that the more you inform the better, but in the end it is up to the Murid how much they want to inform. An example is a friend, you don't tell each friend everything about your life and neither is it required that you tell everyone everything. But, those that you do tell, you will see that you usually have a closer relationship with them. 3. I would say that if your normally are punctual and you miss it once, yes make it up the next day. But, if you miss it often then to stipulate on yourself that you have to make it up will further hamper your progress in being punctual as it will make a person more lazy. Also, informing one's Shaykh about this would be good. Again, these are my preferences and some Mashaikh will say that you should not make the m'amulaat up and others will say that you should make them up in all circumstances.
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