[gabbaman]

If someone is to give advice, please give sensible advice.

And for the record, the ulama say if you are going to hit someone it must not go above shoulders.

@ br Melbourne- you say your wife listen's to religious facts. Well there are many many books on how both husbands and wives rights, as well as rights of children and rights of parents. I'm not sure if she would be willing to read, but if yes, maybe some members could provide literature. If no, you can always read for yourself as to how to be with your children.

I cannot give more advise than that unfortunately as I am a) a wife and b) childless.

May Allah make things easy for you, Ameen.