Assalamu alaikum. Thanks you so much for your replies, jazakallah khair to you all. Fristly I tried being her over the head with a stick but she must have been tired because she fell to the floor & went straight to sleep which didn't help because she couldn't talk to me about my problem... No, just joking but thought kashmir would appreciate some comedy I will get this books as mentioned by sulaiman & read the links from usama. I really appreciate all your helps everyone. I have learned from your posts that I do need to exercise patience, which I was not doing and making things worse for everyone. Funny thing, after writing this post my daughter was being naughty for my wife, she was getting upset & yelling at her, after a few yours she said to me " I really don't know what to do with her, she is getting worse & worse, she doesn't listen to me, she is driving me crazy with her bad behavior, what should I do?" She hasn't said this to me before! Brother blackflagsarfaraz, has things worked out for you?