so its not the stick approach.. but the carrot way tht wins.. and regarding the kid.. come on shez only a 6 yr old.. tell me how often has the brother sat with her helping with homework.. kissed her forehead when he comes back from work.. being a rooster never helps bro.. being human does.. @ sister soduku.. my heartfelt duas tht Allah give u all the happiness in both worlds.. duas.. wa assalam..