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For All Member- Specially for Jaylen

AKHLAKEY BATENI ( SPRIRITUAL CHARACTER)
To become a SUFI and to acquire ‘Spiritual Character’ a man is to be free from the hidden or internal qualities of Sinfulness / Bad Habits / Tendency to evil act. . Internal bad qualities influence man to be involved in sin. These bad qualities are:
a. Pride b. Self-conceit c. Misery d. Cheating e. Jealousy b. Anger g. Suppression/ Oppression h. Desire for enjoyment /oppression, i. Desire to gain wealth and fame.
2. For the emancipation on the day of Judgment the following ten (10) good qualities are essentially required to be acquired by everyone. a. Be ashamed of Sinful work (Tawba )
b. Have patience in sufferings/ misfortune (Sabar)
c. Remain pleased with the wish /order of Allah ( Reja)
d. Be grateful to the blessings of Allah (Shukur)
e. Be afraid of Allah ( Khauf)
f. Remain hopeful for the blessings of Allah (Rwaja)
g. Practice austerities and self-restraint (Johod)
h. Perform prayer to Allah sincerely and wholeheartedly (Ekhlas)
i. Well behave with all the creature of Allah (Good Behave)
j. Have Love & Respect for Allah (Hobbey Fillah)
3. The qualities of the great people has been mentioned in Sura Bakara -Ayat 177. To acquire Spiritual Character a man must have the qualities mentioned above.

WHAT IS ELME TARIKAT AND WHAT IS ITS NECESSITY
There are some impediments / hindrances (viz. Sex-passion, anger, greed, infatuation, vanity and envy, expectation, etc.) in following the rules and regulations of Shariat. The special means which is followed for leading life fully as per Shariat, overcoming those impediments / hindrances is known as TARIKAT.
Tarikat is an arduous practice and life long struggle.
Struggle in remaining away from the influences of the enemies Nafs-e Ammara ( as mentioned above) , Iblish, Jinn and bad man ; as mentioned in Sura Naas.
Those enemies give harmful advice to the heart of the man and try to push them towards the wrong and evil path.
Hard struggle is required to remain safe from those evil counseling ,otherwise it becomes difficult to keep Iman (faith /belief) and Amal (practice) properly.
The way of this struggle as set by those who are closer & friendly to Allah is known as Tarikat. About this struggle Prophet Mohammad (sm) has said, “ We have returned to comparatively strong Jihad (Struggle against Nafs-e- Ammara) from the comparatively weaker Jihad (A holy war).” - (Al Hadis ).
Huzur (sm) has said, “ Amongst your enemies great enemy is your Nafs/Ripu (six inherent /cardinal passions of man) and that is situated on the middle of your both ribs.” ( Al Hadis ).
NAFS There are three types of Nafs.
Nafs -e- Ammara,
Nafs -e- Lawama ,
and Nafs-e-Mutmayenna.
Nafs-e-Ammara: It is very dirty, worst, and sinful. As such always try to provocate for doing sinful work. It does not repent after doing sin. It is uncultured, shameless and immodest.
Nafs-e-Lawama: It is a bit modest and pious. As such it can identify good and bad. If it does any wrong , then & then it repent for that and self reproach is created.
Nafs-e-Mutmayenna: This is educated and perfectly pious. It never does any wrong and sin. It becomes visible due to enlightening by luster of Allah.
Until and unless the internal enemy (six inherent passions of man) is controlled, a man cannot become pious and achieve the Mohabbat (Love/Friendship) of Allah. It is not possible to become favorite to Allah unless a man make his Nafs(Desires) free from bad habits including Excess drinking & Eating, Excess talking, Excess sleeping, Anger, Hot temper, Calling names and fighting/ animal behavior, Speaking ill of others( Gibat), Illegal sexual desire, Greed, Misery, Telling lie, Enmity, Envy, Proud ness, Hate etc. These are the companions of Nafs -e- Ammara.
Following any ‘Tarikat’ is essential for controlling these bad practices/ habits. Prophet Hazrat Mohammad (sm ) has said, “ Shariat is my Kawol (Basis), Tarikat is my Aamal (Practice) and Hakikat is my Haal. (Situation ). ( Al Hadis).
NB: From this Hadis it is easily understood that practicing & following the rules-regulation of Shariat properly is called Tarikat.
If we go into depth, we see that in Hadis-e-Kudsi Allah says:
“ Al Insanu Sirri Wa Ana Sirrahu.”- Mankind is my mystery and I am mysterious to mankind.
Allah Rabbul Alamin also mentioned, “ Hidden knowledge is one of my mystery ,which I have bestowed in the ‘Kalb’ of my obedient followers and nobody except aware about that mystery’’. So Tarikat is the process of establishing the relation between Almighty Allah Subhanahu Taala by discovering the mystery between Allah and his mankind.
Huzur (sm) has said, “ Maan Arafa Nafsahu Fakad Arafa Rabbahu”.
To know the identity of Allah Rabbul Alamin , get the identity of yourself.
Allah has said, “ Mankind is my mystery. So it is not easy to understand this mystery’’. Oh my Lord Allah! Please show me the truth correctly and give me capability to find out that. Which is not truth, please also show that and give me the strength to refrain from that....
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For your Specific Question on " I'm imagining Allah SWT in a form and I don't know how to control it." Please read the following:

1. “Allahu La Elaha Ellah Hual Haiyul……………………….Aliul Azim”
He is Allah, There is no God Except Allah. He is immortal, Ever Existing, He doesn’t sleep or doss. Everything in this universe belongs to him………..(Sura Bakara-255)
2. Directives from Allah:- “Hello ! The believers of Islam, you search the media to get closer to me and fight against Nafs (Nafs -e-Ammara/Bad will force) Definitely you will become successful.”- (Al-Quran, Sura Maida-35 )
3.“ALA INNA AWLIALLAHI LA KHAUFUN ALAIHIM WALAHUM YAHJANUN”- Those who have become Awlia (Favorite to Allah) they have no fear, no worry at all.- (Al Quran)
4. “ He ,who is knowledgeable about Almighty Allah (who is kind) , inquire about Allah to him.”- (Al Quran.)
5. Almighty Allah says,“ My Awlia stay under the cloth (Chador) of my love. Nobody knows them except myself.”- (Hadis -e- Kudsi)
6. The Sovereignty of the Sky and the Earth is only of Allah. There is nobody to help you except Allah. (Sura Bakara- Ayat - 255 )
7. The Skies and the Earth is created by Allah . When he decides to create something , he only utters “Koon (Be)” and that is created. (Bakara- 117)
8. The sovereignty over the Skies and the Earth is only of Allah. He is the creator of life and death. There is no guardian and no helping hand (helper) except Allah. (Sura Tawba-Ayat-116)
9. Whatever is there in the skies or in the earth everything belongs to him (Allah). Everybody is his servant. ( Sura Rum-Ayat-26)

10. Allah is one and none but one. Allah is not dependent to anybody , but everybody is dependent on Allah. He has not given birth to anyone and no one has given birth to him. There is none equivalent to him. (Sura Ekhlas)
11. Every living creature will get the pain of death. After that you will return to me. (Sura Ankabut Ayat-57)
14. Those who repent for their sin and do Tawba , Put faith and do good work , Almighty Allah replace their sin with pious work. Allah is kind and purdoneous. He who do Tawba and do good work, he returns toward Allah the place of return. (Sura Furkan-Ayat-70-71)

So my suggestion is: Please read :
1. “Allahu La Elaha Ellah Hual Haiyul……………………….Aliul Azim”
more & more.
2. Read Sura Ekhlas three times in the Morning & before going to bed.
3. Read " Huollahol Laji La Elaha Ella Hua............ Wa hual azzizul Hakim" (22, 23 & 24 Ayats of Sura Hasr) after Fazr and Asr.
4. Do Tawba in the Morning & Evening before going to bed.
In Sha Allah you will overcome the problem.
Please Let me know the developement after following this.