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**KojlinMakolvin** · 04-20-2011, 12:30 AM

You mean secret 2nd wives? I know of big shuyookh who even have to resort to it because the first wife just wont tolerate it. So they keep it quiet for a few years and then reveal it. Only very close friends and very close students might know of it, immediate family wont even know, its usually because first wife will give hell.

Asalam alykum WrWb,

Ok after this post, I need serious answers.

1. As the other brother asked, is it allowed in islam to marry a 2nd wife in "secret"?
2. What exactly are the conditions of marrying a 2nd wife?

All I know and have learnt from elders is that, when you marry and if you wife does turn up to be among those who give trouble, then know that its because of you past sins ! Hence do tauba.. And maintain sabr as women are like bones of the ribs (bent naturally), any slight pressure will break them.

The 2 concepts are colliding, so i am requesting for the elders to shed some light.

JazakAllah khair
Wa alykum asalam.

04-20-2011, 12:30 AM	#13
KojlinMakolvin Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 394 Senior Member	You mean secret 2nd wives? I know of big shuyookh who even have to resort to it because the first wife just wont tolerate it. So they keep it quiet for a few years and then reveal it. Only very close friends and very close students might know of it, immediate family wont even know, its usually because first wife will give hell. Asalam alykum WrWb, Ok after this post, I need serious answers. 1. As the other brother asked, is it allowed in islam to marry a 2nd wife in "secret"? 2. What exactly are the conditions of marrying a 2nd wife? All I know and have learnt from elders is that, when you marry and if you wife does turn up to be among those who give trouble, then know that its because of you past sins ! Hence do tauba.. And maintain sabr as women are like bones of the ribs (bent naturally), any slight pressure will break them. The 2 concepts are colliding, so i am requesting for the elders to shed some light. JazakAllah khair Wa alykum asalam.
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