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**geraint.faughn** · 03-25-2011, 04:15 AM

What can local ulema and the community do to remove the bariers that stop early or young marriage from occuring.

specifically the religious sphere

Not much unfortunately. The sad fact is that they have very little authority in the sphere of social interactions that exist in communities. Their advice on issues such as how to perform the nikah (ie the legal contract) is about all people are willing to accept.

People generally want to get their children stable financially before they even consider marriage. This means University and then finding work for more and more people now as our community "progresses".

This is equally prevalent in the religious circles from what I've seen.

Even young practising brothers and sisters find it difficult to marry as they want to do it simple and cheap but due to "culture" and what society dictates, they have to try and please parents and pay for stupid rituals which are just for show. This can be a major put off for someone thinking that his savings are going to go up in smoke in one day!

I don't think that it's Ulema who can change this trend, but young practising brothers and sisters who are strong enough to say no to these expensive rituals and set an example and make it easier for the weaker brothers/sisters. (weaker - not meant in derogatory terms)

03-25-2011, 04:15 AM	#2
geraint.faughn Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 443 Senior Member	What can local ulema and the community do to remove the bariers that stop early or young marriage from occuring. specifically the religious sphere Not much unfortunately. The sad fact is that they have very little authority in the sphere of social interactions that exist in communities. Their advice on issues such as how to perform the nikah (ie the legal contract) is about all people are willing to accept. People generally want to get their children stable financially before they even consider marriage. This means University and then finding work for more and more people now as our community "progresses". This is equally prevalent in the religious circles from what I've seen. Even young practising brothers and sisters find it difficult to marry as they want to do it simple and cheap but due to "culture" and what society dictates, they have to try and please parents and pay for stupid rituals which are just for show. This can be a major put off for someone thinking that his savings are going to go up in smoke in one day! I don't think that it's Ulema who can change this trend, but young practising brothers and sisters who are strong enough to say no to these expensive rituals and set an example and make it easier for the weaker brothers/sisters. (weaker - not meant in derogatory terms)
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