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**juptVatoSoito** · 03-28-2011, 07:04 PM

Follow the path of the Salaf blindly...it will invariably lead you to success.

On Friday, a 45 year old female patient named S****** Begum came to my consulting room for diabetes. In the course of my history taking I asked her about stressors in life. She said that there were many. Last year her husband who is a businessman underwent bypass surgery. She arranged for the money with some difficulty and got the operation done. Some days later it turned out that her husband had been having an affair with a call girl since the past 5 years and had kept her in a flat in Virar. With great difficulty and a big ruckus she managed to separate the two. Her daughter who had been married for several years has come back home after a fight with her husband and now refuses to go back. Her younger son who goes to Junior College is having an affair with a Hindu girl and is sinking deeper and deeper into Hindu customs by the day.
So the father can afford a * and flat in which to keep her but cannot pay for the upkeep of his son who could have been married early to a Muslima and thereby protected his eyesight. That is the position from which we talk and that is why we are in the dirt heap.
WS.

That isn't the typical way people live their lives though.

I too am an advocate of early marriage but only if your situation allows for it. Imagine the following scenario which I think is quite common in the UK:

You have a large family (parents and say 4-5 children) all living in a terraced or semi-detached house. The girls can get married, leave their parental home and live with her husband or in-laws (if its possible) but the boys in the family cannot afford to get married as they aren't earning enough to even pay rent, tax and bills let alone other necessities of life. You could say why not just continue living with your parents to share the costs? Good idea only that the boy has two other brothers so there is the hijab issue with his wife and them, not to mention over cramping which by necessity has an impact on their marital relations and intimacy.

So whereas early marriage is a good idea and I agree with it and recommend it to those who can, not many are in a position to make this happen.

03-28-2011, 07:04 PM	#29
juptVatoSoito Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 568 Senior Member	Follow the path of the Salaf blindly...it will invariably lead you to success. On Friday, a 45 year old female patient named S****** Begum came to my consulting room for diabetes. In the course of my history taking I asked her about stressors in life. She said that there were many. Last year her husband who is a businessman underwent bypass surgery. She arranged for the money with some difficulty and got the operation done. Some days later it turned out that her husband had been having an affair with a call girl since the past 5 years and had kept her in a flat in Virar. With great difficulty and a big ruckus she managed to separate the two. Her daughter who had been married for several years has come back home after a fight with her husband and now refuses to go back. Her younger son who goes to Junior College is having an affair with a Hindu girl and is sinking deeper and deeper into Hindu customs by the day. So the father can afford a * and flat in which to keep her but cannot pay for the upkeep of his son who could have been married early to a Muslima and thereby protected his eyesight. That is the position from which we talk and that is why we are in the dirt heap. WS. That isn't the typical way people live their lives though. I too am an advocate of early marriage but only if your situation allows for it. Imagine the following scenario which I think is quite common in the UK: You have a large family (parents and say 4-5 children) all living in a terraced or semi-detached house. The girls can get married, leave their parental home and live with her husband or in-laws (if its possible) but the boys in the family cannot afford to get married as they aren't earning enough to even pay rent, tax and bills let alone other necessities of life. You could say why not just continue living with your parents to share the costs? Good idea only that the boy has two other brothers so there is the hijab issue with his wife and them, not to mention over cramping which by necessity has an impact on their marital relations and intimacy. So whereas early marriage is a good idea and I agree with it and recommend it to those who can, not many are in a position to make this happen.
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