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Old 03-24-2011, 01:26 PM   #6
Thydaysuh

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Sallamu alaykum

I've been trying really hard to control my tongue, in fact I don't even speak half as much as I used to. So far it's going good al-hamdulilah. Before I was always the 'joker' of the group and was known for my sarcastic comments. I would speak to my friends (girls ofcourse) on the phone for hours, and all we would be doing is backbiting subhanallah.

Al-hamdulilah I've become more practising, and this has led me to change my character (for the better)

I made the conscious decision to not only stop speaking about others, but also I would no longer listen to others speaking about others. I even saw something with my own eyes, that was scandalous but kept it to myself which was a first. I was biting my tongue the whole day & itching to tell somebody but I didn't al-hamdulilah. I just focus on my own faults now, not others.

Anyway my problem is the reaction I'm having from other people. In one day, nearly everybody I came in contact with wanted to tell me something about so-and-so. I can't blame them because that was our speech, that's what I used to indulge in. But I stopped every single one and said I don't wish to hear it. So far, people have just stopped talking to me. I even had a sister laugh at me and roll her eyes.

Today is another day, and again people want to tell me something about so-and so. When I want to quote something from the sunnah or Quran these people think I'm trying to act righteous or that I think I'm better than them when I don't.

I want to please Allah (swt) .. so I'm not going to let them speak about others to me. I just want advice on how to tell these people in a nice way I'm not interested because saying 'I'm not interested' or that's haram makes them and then they

Also people are counting down the days that I go back to how I used to be. Subhanallah. They think this is a phase. The fact that I've cut off all non-mahram, and I dress more religiously is making them

I spend most my days alone now, and pray to Allah that he increases my imaan because I don't wish to turn away from the truth. I just want advice on how I can deal with backbiting, because the way I'm doing it now is just getting a lot of and I'm wondering if there's a nicer way to go about it?

Sorry I made the post long.
SAME!
i started practicing..and when i would try to also advice others(and myself) not to backbite..they just laugh at me and say ''yeah..yeah''
they (my previous friends) would always say: ''omg you are so boring now! before you were so fun and cool..but now ....now your just boring!''
Alhamdulillah i have 3 new friends who are more like me and still when my previous friends come to us they would say :''bye losers..i might aswell go to them..they are more intersting''
most of the time we (me and my friends) talk about islam and my previous friends find it boring.
all i am trying to do is to be a good servant...
but may Allah help me and others to stay on the right track!
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