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**blankostaroe** · 09-08-2012, 11:14 PM

Walaykum salam,

Make her a nice cup of masala Chai, sit down and tell her
''darling - pleasing society and seeking honor from them is not the way of success. Pleasing each other is better and my pleasure is in pleasing God. So please me by being pleased with my pleasant sunnah clothes''.
Everything will be 'pleaseful' then.

Bro, jokes aside and to be honest. These things you cant be advised over the forum. Such things you should be able to sort out amongst yourself without seeking religious expertise. When a wife becomes disobedient and transgresses then the matter becomes serious and could warrant religious advise. Otherwise if your wife wants you well-groomed and feels sunnah clothes dont make you look as good as she wants you then I mean you can always sit and discuss with her and resolve differences. People will give you a million advise and leave you confused. YOu might end up with really silly advise over a forum like 'divorce her' which I am not surprised has already been conveyed.

i dont know if you are married or not, but it seems that you do not understand the situation here in context of the deen, rights of the husband over the wife, and dominance of the husband over the wife.

the problem is not just about the clothing. in my opinion the problem is more about the lack of respect and lack of submission that the wife has towards the husband.

if the wife gently requested he husband to not wear the sunnah, then the husband would be advised to act in the same way and explain to the wife why he does not want to reject the sunnah. but in this situation the wife is DEMANDING that the husband takes off the sunnah, and she is creating trouble in the family because the husband is refusing to take off the sunnah.

if the husband gives in to the wife over this, then later she will bring up another issue until the husband again gives in. then after that there will be more and more issues, and each time the husband will need to give in. and the wife will be dominant over the husband and the husband will be like a woman in his own home. this situation will not lead to an ideal islamic environment within his home. this will also affect the childrens tarbiyya.

the husband has done nothing wrong with wearing the sunnah. mashallah he has carried out such and act that we will only realise its true value in the next world. he should keep with the sunnah regardless of what others want him to do. we do not follow the whim of others, but we follow Allah and His Rasool

. inshallah he will be rewarded for his steadfastness.

the wife is committing zulm on her husband by demanding that he takes off the sunnah. she is trying to gain dominance over him by dictating to him how he can dress and not dress. she has no right to do this, and in doing so is bringing the anger of Allah on herself. she needs to stop this immediately and understand her role as a muslim wife.

if the wife carries on like this on this issue and other issues then it would be better that they divorce, and then the husband can find a wife who is more deen inclined and more compatible with him. it is not wise to leave this until they have children and complicate matters even further.

09-08-2012, 11:14 PM	#24
blankostaroe Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 445 Senior Member	Walaykum salam, Make her a nice cup of masala Chai, sit down and tell her ''darling - pleasing society and seeking honor from them is not the way of success. Pleasing each other is better and my pleasure is in pleasing God. So please me by being pleased with my pleasant sunnah clothes''. Everything will be 'pleaseful' then. Bro, jokes aside and to be honest. These things you cant be advised over the forum. Such things you should be able to sort out amongst yourself without seeking religious expertise. When a wife becomes disobedient and transgresses then the matter becomes serious and could warrant religious advise. Otherwise if your wife wants you well-groomed and feels sunnah clothes dont make you look as good as she wants you then I mean you can always sit and discuss with her and resolve differences. People will give you a million advise and leave you confused. YOu might end up with really silly advise over a forum like 'divorce her' which I am not surprised has already been conveyed. i dont know if you are married or not, but it seems that you do not understand the situation here in context of the deen, rights of the husband over the wife, and dominance of the husband over the wife. the problem is not just about the clothing. in my opinion the problem is more about the lack of respect and lack of submission that the wife has towards the husband. if the wife gently requested he husband to not wear the sunnah, then the husband would be advised to act in the same way and explain to the wife why he does not want to reject the sunnah. but in this situation the wife is DEMANDING that the husband takes off the sunnah, and she is creating trouble in the family because the husband is refusing to take off the sunnah. if the husband gives in to the wife over this, then later she will bring up another issue until the husband again gives in. then after that there will be more and more issues, and each time the husband will need to give in. and the wife will be dominant over the husband and the husband will be like a woman in his own home. this situation will not lead to an ideal islamic environment within his home. this will also affect the childrens tarbiyya. the husband has done nothing wrong with wearing the sunnah. mashallah he has carried out such and act that we will only realise its true value in the next world. he should keep with the sunnah regardless of what others want him to do. we do not follow the whim of others, but we follow Allah and His Rasool . inshallah he will be rewarded for his steadfastness. the wife is committing zulm on her husband by demanding that he takes off the sunnah. she is trying to gain dominance over him by dictating to him how he can dress and not dress. she has no right to do this, and in doing so is bringing the anger of Allah on herself. she needs to stop this immediately and understand her role as a muslim wife. if the wife carries on like this on this issue and other issues then it would be better that they divorce, and then the husband can find a wife who is more deen inclined and more compatible with him. it is not wise to leave this until they have children and complicate matters even further.
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