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**mudozvonf** · 09-10-2012, 01:22 AM

For all those advocating divorce should read the following fatwa;

http://www.islam.tc/cgi-bin/askimam/...=5264&act=view

Question
Assalam-alaikum, Mufti Sahab, My husband and I performed Hajj this year, and after we returned, I began to wear full niqaab. This has been a real test for me socially as very few women actually observe this in the States. Furthermore, my husband seems to have taken it the hardest. Since I began wearing it our relationship has become rather strained. He feels that I am being too orthodox, since some scholars advocate that a woman's face may remain uncovered when observing hijaab. He has become withdrawn and is exhibiting signs of depression (feeling lethargic and sleepy all the time, not eating properly). He has not forbidden me to wear it, but his depression is scaring me. I want to do this for the sake of Allah SWT. Please advise me. JazakAllah-Khair and may Allah reward you for this wonderful service.

Answer
Your zeal to wear the Niqaab is commendable. Ideally, your husband should
also encourage you to do so as your beauty is exclusively for him - not for
all and sundry.

If he does not understand that, and that is the cause of a strained
relationship between both of you, then removing the Niqaab will be lesser of
the two evils - exposing the face Vs marital dispute. You will be excused.
The sin of exposing your face will be upon your husband. We suggest you
discuss the issue with him and probably engage him to discuss the matter
with us as well. He may need to be encouraged.

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai

The matter should be put forward to a mufti, and all background knowledge of the situation should be presented to him

I think the Mufti weighs up whether:

1. There is more fitnah arising from the occurrence of divorce
2. Or more fitnah/hardship arising from the non occurrence of the divorce

And I think the hardship that arises from divorce is evident in some cultures (such as the asian culture where divorcees are frowned upon/slandered at will, find it difficult to get remarried and so on) but the hardship that arises from staying in certain marriages (such as abusive marriages- if a husband is abusive to his wife, he may be abusive to his children too, etc) is not always as evident. Like in the case of advising a practising Muslim to stay married to a non practising one- the problem that arises from such a scenario is that the kids will end up with a non practising parent and this is unacceptable

So everything needs to be taken into consideration, direct and indirect consequences alike. It's not always easy to advise these types of cases but my opinion on this has been made clear already in previous posts.

And the social stigma that follows divorce also needs to be removed but that itself is another topic

09-10-2012, 01:22 AM	#33
mudozvonf Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 426 Senior Member	For all those advocating divorce should read the following fatwa; http://www.islam.tc/cgi-bin/askimam/...=5264&act=view Question Assalam-alaikum, Mufti Sahab, My husband and I performed Hajj this year, and after we returned, I began to wear full niqaab. This has been a real test for me socially as very few women actually observe this in the States. Furthermore, my husband seems to have taken it the hardest. Since I began wearing it our relationship has become rather strained. He feels that I am being too orthodox, since some scholars advocate that a woman's face may remain uncovered when observing hijaab. He has become withdrawn and is exhibiting signs of depression (feeling lethargic and sleepy all the time, not eating properly). He has not forbidden me to wear it, but his depression is scaring me. I want to do this for the sake of Allah SWT. Please advise me. JazakAllah-Khair and may Allah reward you for this wonderful service. Answer Your zeal to wear the Niqaab is commendable. Ideally, your husband should also encourage you to do so as your beauty is exclusively for him - not for all and sundry. If he does not understand that, and that is the cause of a strained relationship between both of you, then removing the Niqaab will be lesser of the two evils - exposing the face Vs marital dispute. You will be excused. The sin of exposing your face will be upon your husband. We suggest you discuss the issue with him and probably engage him to discuss the matter with us as well. He may need to be encouraged. and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best Mufti Ebrahim Desai The matter should be put forward to a mufti, and all background knowledge of the situation should be presented to him I think the Mufti weighs up whether: 1. There is more fitnah arising from the occurrence of divorce 2. Or more fitnah/hardship arising from the non occurrence of the divorce And I think the hardship that arises from divorce is evident in some cultures (such as the asian culture where divorcees are frowned upon/slandered at will, find it difficult to get remarried and so on) but the hardship that arises from staying in certain marriages (such as abusive marriages- if a husband is abusive to his wife, he may be abusive to his children too, etc) is not always as evident. Like in the case of advising a practising Muslim to stay married to a non practising one- the problem that arises from such a scenario is that the kids will end up with a non practising parent and this is unacceptable So everything needs to be taken into consideration, direct and indirect consequences alike. It's not always easy to advise these types of cases but my opinion on this has been made clear already in previous posts. And the social stigma that follows divorce also needs to be removed but that itself is another topic
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