[Adimondin]

Kaoru, I'm sorry to hear it didn't go well. I think you just have to balance how well you like kendo against your opinion of your instructor and his policies. Also evaluate whether you'll be able to mend your relationship with your instructor, should you decide to return. One thing I would advise you to do is to visit the other dojo, even though you can't attend there. I think you need to see how other clubs operate just for comparison's sake. I note there's dojo in Minneapolis, St. Paul and Rochester in your state.