I'm sorry to say, but you aren't really learning real kendo or any other Japanese sword art. We NEVER attack each other with a bokken(or a real sword, for that matter, to clarify things.) in any Japanese sword art. Not even in our kata. We don't actually touch a person. We don't want to kill or maim anyone. IMNSHO, the guy is crazy for WANTING you to hit him with a bokken. Is he asking to DIE?? Or, at the very least, sustain a serious injury? Seriously, the guy is totally out of line, and it's painfully obvious now, that he's not a real sword instructor. Next thing you know, he'll be wanting to hit YOU! So, please, I'm begging you, let me find you a real teacher!