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**Luisabens** · 09-22-2007, 01:30 AM

The worst was when we had to keiko together. We were about the same rank (yon-kyu) at the time, so we had a lot of jigeiko with each other. Frankly, it's really awkward: you look at this girl you're with, and can't bring yourself to attack or do anything. It really comes down to a tsuba-zeriai nothing-fest where both of you just kind of rest until you start fighting others.

Actually, I have experienced this myself, and it is possible to overcome it. I no longer treat my girlfriend any different from the others at the dojo. And she sure as hell don't treat me different either (been on the receiveing end of a tai-atari that made me end up pressed to the wall

(note to self: Need more tai-atari practice))

I think all people who scream about "dojo love is forbidden" are just really envious that none of the hot kendoka at their dojo has shown any interest

Being together with someone in the dojo is no different from dating classmates or co-workers. Or for that thing: any one who you might run into on a regular basis even after breaking up.

09-22-2007, 01:30 AM	#37
Luisabens Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 437 Senior Member	The worst was when we had to keiko together. We were about the same rank (yon-kyu) at the time, so we had a lot of jigeiko with each other. Frankly, it's really awkward: you look at this girl you're with, and can't bring yourself to attack or do anything. It really comes down to a tsuba-zeriai nothing-fest where both of you just kind of rest until you start fighting others. Actually, I have experienced this myself, and it is possible to overcome it. I no longer treat my girlfriend any different from the others at the dojo. And she sure as hell don't treat me different either (been on the receiveing end of a tai-atari that made me end up pressed to the wall (note to self: Need more tai-atari practice)) I think all people who scream about "dojo love is forbidden" are just really envious that none of the hot kendoka at their dojo has shown any interest Being together with someone in the dojo is no different from dating classmates or co-workers. Or for that thing: any one who you might run into on a regular basis even after breaking up.
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