Why is everyone attacking the guy (OP)? (Is it really so obvious to everyone in his country as to who he's talking about?) It's not like he used any names... That being said, I can definitely see how what one person thinks of as flirting might in fact not actually be flirting. Wouldn't it have been better to just say "well, its better not to make assumptions" or something like that? When someone asks that kind of question, (or at least if I was the one asking) what I'd REALLY want is for someone to help me find a way to see (rationalize? see through an assumption?) that what looked like flirting actually wasn't. So that I'd feel better about what I saw (and so that I could regain the respect I had for such a person). Thats what I am understanding as "what do you think?". But before knowing a darn thing, everyone starts attacking the OP...? Or making assumptions? Even if he's in the wrong, getting all nasty towards him doesn't help a bit.