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**fameintatenly** · 09-01-2012, 12:48 PM

The idea is : "when I post, do I instinctively try to avoid being criticized or disliked for what I say/write, or do I just express opinions so as to be applaused or liked just for the sake of it, which may also bring dislike or hatred from other people".

Hmm ... given the examples above, I don't really fit into either of those categories--at least, I don't think so. When I post, I merely give my most truthful opinion, and then let the chips fall where they may. I'm not necessarily thinking of whether others are going to approve or disapprove of what I have to say. (Unless I'm telling them I like their post or something.)

However, having said that, once someone responds to my opinions in a negative way, I tend to ignore their response, feeling that discussing anything with them further would not be fruitful. But if they are objective and simply want to discuss my opinions with me further in order to gain clarification, without trying to pick apart my opinions and getting personal and attacking me for even having those opinions, then I will discuss things further with that person.

I have to admit, I certainly like it when others agree with things I say, but I do not post based on that particular outcome. It's more of a happy surprise if it happens, that's all, and if it doesn't, that's fine too.

Of course, when it comes to creating threads, I try to post things people will enjoy, such as humor or something, so in that case, I might be thinking of how others will respond. But normally, I either create a topic that I think others might find interesting as well or that might lead to an interesting discussion, yet any opinions I give within that thread are simply how I may view things concerning that topic at the time and are not geared to seeking approval or disapproval with respect to my opinions. Sorry, does that make sense? Meaning, sometimes I might think of approval in terms of creating an interesting topic, but not necessarily in terms of giving my opinions within that topic.

So based on the two examples you provided, I don't think I fit into either of those two categories in terms of posting. Yet I still feel I probably belong in the Southern European group. Am I missing something or is that probably a correct assessment?

09-01-2012, 12:48 PM	#18
fameintatenly Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 520 Senior Member	The idea is : "when I post, do I instinctively try to avoid being criticized or disliked for what I say/write, or do I just express opinions so as to be applaused or liked just for the sake of it, which may also bring dislike or hatred from other people". Hmm ... given the examples above, I don't really fit into either of those categories--at least, I don't think so. When I post, I merely give my most truthful opinion, and then let the chips fall where they may. I'm not necessarily thinking of whether others are going to approve or disapprove of what I have to say. (Unless I'm telling them I like their post or something.) However, having said that, once someone responds to my opinions in a negative way, I tend to ignore their response, feeling that discussing anything with them further would not be fruitful. But if they are objective and simply want to discuss my opinions with me further in order to gain clarification, without trying to pick apart my opinions and getting personal and attacking me for even having those opinions, then I will discuss things further with that person. I have to admit, I certainly like it when others agree with things I say, but I do not post based on that particular outcome. It's more of a happy surprise if it happens, that's all, and if it doesn't, that's fine too. Of course, when it comes to creating threads, I try to post things people will enjoy, such as humor or something, so in that case, I might be thinking of how others will respond. But normally, I either create a topic that I think others might find interesting as well or that might lead to an interesting discussion, yet any opinions I give within that thread are simply how I may view things concerning that topic at the time and are not geared to seeking approval or disapproval with respect to my opinions. Sorry, does that make sense? Meaning, sometimes I might think of approval in terms of creating an interesting topic, but not necessarily in terms of giving my opinions within that topic. So based on the two examples you provided, I don't think I fit into either of those two categories in terms of posting. Yet I still feel I probably belong in the Southern European group. Am I missing something or is that probably a correct assessment?
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