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Assalaamu alaykum bhai jaan, missing you very much.

The answer to your question is in the citation. Find out where did Hazratwala db say this and what was the context, who was he speaking to? If this is general advice to all people, including his son, then thats all it is a general advice. Like his son, you dont have to accept it if you dont want to. He was not issuing a command I dont think, he was just giving general advice.

وعليكم السلام

Sheikh sahib, koi to hai dunia mein jo hume miss karta hai...

Someone posted his saying in the forum. I can't seem to find it. Sheikh sahib all i'm saying is why do we advise people not to marry again? Instead why can't we give them advice that do marry again and marry widows and divorcees so that you support them. And when you marry again, give the wives their huqooq. Just like we make bayans about giving the ikhloti begum her huqooq?

So what i'm saying is that we've made this aspect of deen practically Haram even though we say no its not haram.. But our actions prove otherwise. When we say that no one can do justice these days (ive heard many muftis saying this), we're actually saying that since no one can do justice so it's haram to marry. So we make it practically haram....

The thing is that the evil of polygamy have made way into the deepest of our minds and hearts that no matter what, we see it as evil. And the person who's doing it is seen as an evil monster who's just after women... WHY?

ًWhy is it so that we strive to follow each and every sunnah, and thousands of bayans are made on following sunnah but when it comes to this important sunnah which is not just limited to your individual life but instead it has an impact on the muashra, we don't make any bayans, we don't tell people this is also an important sunnah, we don't tell them that it's the sunnah of all the prophets, majority of the sahaba, and esp its the Sunnah of Our Prophet صلي الله عليه وسلم... We never tell people this. What we do is when some guy who wants to save himself from zina and comes to marry again, we advise him not to get a wife instead do zikr and do sabr. So why did Allah allow it in the first place? Allah shudve told us to do zikr and sabr... No need to get married...

My other question is that, why do we give our sheikhs, our buzurgs, our peers more importance than Sahaba and Rasool Allah sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Again we don't accept this but its proven practically. When a sheikh tells you not to marry we'll spend day and night mentioning, look our sheikh has told us not to get second wives. I met one mufti 2 weeks ago, spoke to him about polygamy. His first answer was well Hazrat Maulana..... has written in his book that it's better to stick to one wife because of the troubles and problems created when you get a second wife. So in short, sab se pehlay pakistan. I should live in peace, everyone else should go to hell.. I shouuldnt care about the women who are widowed, divorced in a young age and can't find any husbands.. I should worry only about my one and only wife.... etc etc

In the end ill qoute a hadith of Hazrat Abdullah bin Abbas رضي الله عنه for those who believe that sayings of Sahaba hold more value than sayings of the sheikh:

عن سعيد بن جبير قال: قال لي ابن عباس: هل تزوجت قلت لا، قال فتزوج فإن خير هذه الأمة أكثرها نساء

صحيح البخاري

Hazrat Ibn e Abbas رضي الله عنه asked Saeed bin Jubair rh, are you marrieD? he said no, He said, go and marry because the best of this ummat is the one who has the most wives.....

Muhadditheen say that it can mean two things:

1. If two people are equal in all other things then the better one will be the one who has more wives.
2. That the best of this Ummah - Rasool Allah صلي الله عليه وسلم- had the most wives...

Either way, it encourages us to get more wives....

And there are many more hadith....

Some other time...