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Asalaamu Alaikum,

Brothers and sisters! I seem to fall back to where I was each time. I know we have to respect our parents and arguing with them is completely wrong. But my mom and I live together and we just can't get along!!!

What do I do when I feel like she is being really unfair?? I don't want to badmouth her but i thought maybe talking on this forum would be better than me telling someone who knows her in person as that would be more personal and worse and I really need advice.

My mom has a really huge temper too . We end up arguing so often and sometimes I feel like it's not my fault but at the same time she's my mother and I don't have the right to yell at her.

I just don't know how to get along with my mother. I love her so much but I can't seem to respect her because i don't feel like I get the respect back either. But at the same time, she was a single parent and I do respect her a lot. It's so hard!

Tonight I was way out of line and yelled at her a lot too but I can't even go and apologise because in the past when I have tried that it seems like her anger just looms more and more with time. So I'm trying to stay out of her sight as much as i can tonight.

There is a lot of bad feelings between us often. I have suffered from such severe waswas and Alhamdulillah it's much better now. But it wasn't my mom who helped me through it [she didn't know and what she did know, she did offer advice but it was long distance at the time as I was away]. It was different forum members and brothers and sisters I've never met. Now when I am much better with dealing with this Alhamdulillah I still find myself doing little things that are a bit OCD-like. Eg. I wash my hand quite often due to paranoia. and then she would just say you have this paranoia-disease or something like that and it would just upset me a lot and I know that's not even fair. I once took a shower in dirt because a dog had brushed against me and I thought it had licked me and the paranoia had gotten so bad. Now if I wash my hands a few extra times I don't think it's as bad as that an. And I try my best to avoid it and it makes me a bit over the top.


Please please help me! Please make Dua' for me and my family! I'm a bit of a bad smell in the house now and not very welcome! I end up in tears and regret things so much and often I can tell myself that I'm in the wrong. But sometimes, just sometimes, it seems like the adults forget they can be wrong too!