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**isopsmypovA** · 09-03-2012, 11:21 PM

As-salamu 'alaikum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuh

(285. The Messenger believes in what has been sent down to him from his Lord, and (so do) the believers. Each one believes in Allah, His Angels, His Books, and His Messengers. (They say,) "We make no distinction between one another of His Messengers ـ and they say, "We hear, and we obey. (We seek) Your forgiveness, our Lord, and to You is the return (of all).'') (286. Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope. He gets reward for that (good) which he has earned, and he is punished for that (evil) which he has earned. "Our Lord! Punish us not if we forget or fall into error, our Lord! Lay not on us a burden like that which You did lay on those before us (Jews and Christians); our Lord! Put not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Pardon us and grant us forgiveness. Have mercy on us. You are our Mawla (Patron, Supporter and Protector) and give us victory over the disbelieving people.'') (From Surat-ul-Baqarah)

I don't know but I am going to take a guess and say that you were not always like this. I could be wrong but I think there was a point in your life when you weren't like this. So how did you get to this point? Well one factor is that you are obviously a perfectionist which in itself is not a bad thing since perfection is something which should strive for. Obviously what you are undergoing is not healthy though. You got to this extreme point by making this repetition-thing a habit. A lot of things people do is just habit. There are good habits and bad ones. Habits develop overtime, they don't just appear out of nowhere.

Now you need to make it a habit not to repeat anything. Just say it once. That's it. No double, triple or quadruple takes. You need to make this a compulsory habit. Although I am not a scholar, I think that at this point it would be haram for you to re-re-repeat what you say in prayer. You also need to learn to live with imperfection and you must fully accept it. You should learn how to pray care-free. I know this probably sounds very scary or even impossible for you to imagine but that's what you should do. If you make mistakes, accept them and ask Allah for forgiveness.

Another good option is to pray in congregation. You can't re-repeat words in congregation because you have to follow the Imam and inshaa Allah his prayer will cover yours. Just don't get obsessive about the Imam's prayer.

09-03-2012, 11:21 PM	#13
isopsmypovA Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 493 Senior Member	As-salamu 'alaikum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuh (285. The Messenger believes in what has been sent down to him from his Lord, and (so do) the believers. Each one believes in Allah, His Angels, His Books, and His Messengers. (They say,) "We make no distinction between one another of His Messengers ـ and they say, "We hear, and we obey. (We seek) Your forgiveness, our Lord, and to You is the return (of all).'') (286. Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope. He gets reward for that (good) which he has earned, and he is punished for that (evil) which he has earned. "Our Lord! Punish us not if we forget or fall into error, our Lord! Lay not on us a burden like that which You did lay on those before us (Jews and Christians); our Lord! Put not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Pardon us and grant us forgiveness. Have mercy on us. You are our Mawla (Patron, Supporter and Protector) and give us victory over the disbelieving people.'') (From Surat-ul-Baqarah) I don't know but I am going to take a guess and say that you were not always like this. I could be wrong but I think there was a point in your life when you weren't like this. So how did you get to this point? Well one factor is that you are obviously a perfectionist which in itself is not a bad thing since perfection is something which should strive for. Obviously what you are undergoing is not healthy though. You got to this extreme point by making this repetition-thing a habit. A lot of things people do is just habit. There are good habits and bad ones. Habits develop overtime, they don't just appear out of nowhere. Now you need to make it a habit not to repeat anything. Just say it once. That's it. No double, triple or quadruple takes. You need to make this a compulsory habit. Although I am not a scholar, I think that at this point it would be haram for you to re-re-repeat what you say in prayer. You also need to learn to live with imperfection and you must fully accept it. You should learn how to pray care-free. I know this probably sounds very scary or even impossible for you to imagine but that's what you should do. If you make mistakes, accept them and ask Allah for forgiveness. Another good option is to pray in congregation. You can't re-repeat words in congregation because you have to follow the Imam and inshaa Allah his prayer will cover yours. Just don't get obsessive about the Imam's prayer.
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