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I never understood why people (especially younger couples) rush to have children as soon as they're married. It's not the Olympics. Especially in arranged marriage setups where your contact with them is so minimal that you got to your wedding day having built no comfort into the relationship.

For what it's worth I think you're right not to have children right away but rather work on trying to have a relationship with her first. You can always use protection as a way to fulfil her rights and minimizing risk of pregnancy. My cousins all advised me that 'if you don't find your wife attractive, it's all downhill/more difficult'. That is something to address. Buy her some new shoes, clothes etc.


Some suggestions on things you could do (maybe you are doing them already):

Call her everyday (if you're at work) for 5 minutes and ask how her day is going. Look for things in what she says to tease her about, make her laugh.
Buy a board game and play - just the two of you. Something with a dice. Dim the light if possible.
Other thing you could do is book a table at the restaurant and have her meet you halfway (at the station or somewhere near) as you would with a friend. Gives her something to look forward too.