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**Mambattedge** · 09-04-2012, 02:56 AM

I don't think there is any need for teenagers or adults to celebrate their birthday but for small children (say under 10s) what do you say? Should we have a small party in the house with a birthday cake and candles and presents or not? In Western society it is normal to and they might feel missed out if their non Muslim friends have birthdays (and they get invited) but themselves don't celebrate it.

Bismihi Ta’ala

Dear Sister in Islam,
As-Salaamu ‘alaykum waRahmatullah

1.) When we have been granted priceless pearls and gems with the beautiful Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) – it would be foolishness to exchange that for stones – and in this regard, the stones denote the ways, the culture and the customs of the non-Muslims.

Alhamdulillah, we have been given a superior way of life in the Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) – then why should we relinquish that for the inferior?

2.) Whilst you may be enquiring about and suggesting birthday parties for minors, let us not indirectly propose compromising on Deen and compromising on the Pleasure of Allah Ta’ala by giving preference to the western custom. Even though the post refers to minors, the suggestion and reasoning is not correct. Neither should we be attending their parties, nor should we be emulating them by having the same.

Alhamdulillah, there are Halaal forms of entertaining children.

3.) The Hadeeth makes mention: Whoever imitates a people is one of them.

So it is not permissible to imitate the non-Muslims in their celebrations. And a good Muslim would never want to introduce her child to the culture, customs, dress, etc. of the non-muslims.

Islam is beautiful. There is no flaw, no failing in Islam. It is not “dry”. It is not boring. It is not difficult. On the contrary, it is enjoyable, it is easy and it offers so much of comfort (for both adults and children) – and ultimately, it offers the success of both worlds.

4.) So my dear sister, we have to give thought to what we intend to post, so that we do not unknowingly direct towards something which is not acceptable in Islam, and then unwittingly become an associate in what displeases Allah Ta’ala.

5.) The following link is an article of the respected Shaykh, Maulana Abdul Hamid Is`haq of South Africa. Insha-Allah, it will offer you some understanding.

http://www.khanqahashrafiaislamia.co..._birthdays.pdf

6.) Allah Ta’ala grant us all, deep appreciation for what we have in Islam and give us a correct understanding also.

Was-Salaamu ‘alaykum waRahmatullah
Your sister in Islam

09-04-2012, 02:56 AM	#10
Mambattedge Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 460 Senior Member	I don't think there is any need for teenagers or adults to celebrate their birthday but for small children (say under 10s) what do you say? Should we have a small party in the house with a birthday cake and candles and presents or not? In Western society it is normal to and they might feel missed out if their non Muslim friends have birthdays (and they get invited) but themselves don't celebrate it. Bismihi Ta’ala Dear Sister in Islam, As-Salaamu ‘alaykum waRahmatullah 1.) When we have been granted priceless pearls and gems with the beautiful Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) – it would be foolishness to exchange that for stones – and in this regard, the stones denote the ways, the culture and the customs of the non-Muslims. Alhamdulillah, we have been given a superior way of life in the Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) – then why should we relinquish that for the inferior? 2.) Whilst you may be enquiring about and suggesting birthday parties for minors, let us not indirectly propose compromising on Deen and compromising on the Pleasure of Allah Ta’ala by giving preference to the western custom. Even though the post refers to minors, the suggestion and reasoning is not correct. Neither should we be attending their parties, nor should we be emulating them by having the same. Alhamdulillah, there are Halaal forms of entertaining children. 3.) The Hadeeth makes mention: Whoever imitates a people is one of them. So it is not permissible to imitate the non-Muslims in their celebrations. And a good Muslim would never want to introduce her child to the culture, customs, dress, etc. of the non-muslims. Islam is beautiful. There is no flaw, no failing in Islam. It is not “dry”. It is not boring. It is not difficult. On the contrary, it is enjoyable, it is easy and it offers so much of comfort (for both adults and children) – and ultimately, it offers the success of both worlds. 4.) So my dear sister, we have to give thought to what we intend to post, so that we do not unknowingly direct towards something which is not acceptable in Islam, and then unwittingly become an associate in what displeases Allah Ta’ala. 5.) The following link is an article of the respected Shaykh, Maulana Abdul Hamid Is`haq of South Africa. Insha-Allah, it will offer you some understanding. http://www.khanqahashrafiaislamia.co..._birthdays.pdf 6.) Allah Ta’ala grant us all, deep appreciation for what we have in Islam and give us a correct understanding also. Was-Salaamu ‘alaykum waRahmatullah Your sister in Islam
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