I know I wrote a somewhat lengthy post on it, but I don't claim to have all the answers. It's something I've wondered about quite a lot. My feeling used to be that it would be better not to know. If they just keep their feelings to themselves and I never find out I will have a lot less to worry about. That's how I used to see it. Anti-racist society is based on this idea, at least once you dig deeper. On the surface, the principle is that whites don't have any racial feelings (anymore, except for a few "crazies"), but we all eventually learn that that is BS. Of course they have them. (Imo, they should be allowed and encouraged to. I mean, lol, whites are people too, right?) So anti-racist society implicitly believes (ie it doesn't admit it believes this) that those feelings should be kept hidden.