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**ultramDoctoo** · 06-28-2010, 08:05 AM

Just romantic, or other types of love too?

JM

This is a major point in long term relationships. In my case lust was immediate, and lasted for about a year before beginning its long, slow decline. It still exists, but is episodic, and the episodes get further and further apart.

After the initial novelty of the relationship wore off and lust was not frequent enough to keep me keen, doubt and discontent set in. I was constantly wondering about other women and whether I'd be better off with them or not, or whether I'd just be better off alone. That began at about the 1 year mark, probably earlier, built up to a peak at about the 12 year mark, and has been on the wane ever since, as long-term deep friendship, trust and understanding - both of myself and my partner, and the dynamics of relationships - have taken the position of the dominant forces in our relationship.

It's a good place to be, but I've gotta say it was mainly luck that got us through to this point, and who's to say what might happen in the future.

Your relationship sounds great Elok, a rare find. My (unsolicited, I know) advice to you is to remember that what is said can't be unsaid, and that the way you feel right now might not be the way you feel later, so always try to tread lightly and carefully.

06-28-2010, 08:05 AM	#3
ultramDoctoo Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 461 Senior Member	Just romantic, or other types of love too? JM This is a major point in long term relationships. In my case lust was immediate, and lasted for about a year before beginning its long, slow decline. It still exists, but is episodic, and the episodes get further and further apart. After the initial novelty of the relationship wore off and lust was not frequent enough to keep me keen, doubt and discontent set in. I was constantly wondering about other women and whether I'd be better off with them or not, or whether I'd just be better off alone. That began at about the 1 year mark, probably earlier, built up to a peak at about the 12 year mark, and has been on the wane ever since, as long-term deep friendship, trust and understanding - both of myself and my partner, and the dynamics of relationships - have taken the position of the dominant forces in our relationship. It's a good place to be, but I've gotta say it was mainly luck that got us through to this point, and who's to say what might happen in the future. Your relationship sounds great Elok, a rare find. My (unsolicited, I know) advice to you is to remember that what is said can't be unsaid, and that the way you feel right now might not be the way you feel later, so always try to tread lightly and carefully.
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