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Don't get me wrong, I have supported many of my workers that got (or were trying to get a better offer than I could provide) But these discussions are best done prior. I.E. I'm looking for a higher position in another area of the company. If you see me attaining the higher position here in the future, I'm willing to stick it out. Come off much better than If you don't give me a raise now I'm out of here in two weeks. I know that company loyalty isn't what it was but personal loyalty between boss and employee is still a very valuable asset. I do everything I can to assist my employees in personal growth. Unfortunately sometimes I can't do enough and they have to move on. If you support that, those that stay behind will realize that you're doing the best you can (within the constraints)

So yes, I do take it personally when out of the blue someone comes up and says now or bye. I Should already be aware of the situation if my employee was treating me like I try to treat them. I know it sounds a bit old fashioned but I you had ever worked for me, it might be easier to understand. So yes, I consider it blackmail.

And As I mentioned previously, there have been times when there was no bona fide offer.